By Amer Mayen Dhieu, Australia
October 30, 2015 (SSB) —- Much uproars have been expressed by concerned South Sudanese concerning the recent wedding of the South Sudanese first female pilot, Aluel Bol, to Marial Gumke, a man with two other wives.
Dear young South Sudanese girls including my old self, do not stop learning from our trailblazing sister, Aluel Bol, who recently got snatched away from us by a polygamist.
Despite all odds, she is still our role model—the first woman who put our name down the history of South Sudan Aviation as well as of Ethiopia and Dubai.
Her educational experiences testify the veritable fact that women can go to school, study and become anything our counterparts in the bygone years have never been. She is a great lady and still is; however, do not try what she tried at your personal level. I mean her choice of marriage.
The lifestyle of our forefathers and foremothers may deceive us that polygamy is culturally acceptable. No, it is not given this era where kids need breakfast every morning, school fees every term and diapers hourly.
It is not just about economic conditions, mind you, but about our dignity as women.
Think of our sisters that will be filed up in marriage with you. They might have put the first impressions on the husband leading the guy to marry them before you, and here the table have turn.
You will be his centre of attention most of his life before he got himself another lady leaving the poor first wives in drought of love.
No one in our God-given sisterhood right would think of letting her other half—sister—suffer emotionally.
Men are good at making us feel better. They might support us in love and marriage. They can help us achieve our dreams or take care of our kids but all these services cannot be available to us all if we are more than one in marriage.
If you are lucky to get all of them, then think of your sister sharing the same husband might not be getting anything, making you the evil of all women.
Before we start contemplating sharing of husbands, we should all first think of other sisters, for their lives really matter too as much as ours.
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