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By Mamer Deng Jur, Australia

riek going to juba

January 19, 2016 (SSB)  —  I know that a lot of people likes the term REBEL rather than referring these unhappily citizens as a team in OPPOSITION.

Many cry: Peace! Peace! Peace! When people talk about peace and referring to peace, you may always wonder; do they really mean what they are saying? Literally is it in their hearts or are they just flattering about it? Well, i have invited you; to give your thoughts because i don’t have answers to these questions.

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By MAMER DENG JUR, AUSTRALIA

The wedding of Aloung Gai Angeth and Amaan Lueth Thiak

The wedding of Aloung Gai Angeth and Amaan Lueth Thiak

September 10, 2015 (SSB)  —-  Weddings are western culture, which have the greatest significance to the marrying couples, family members and their friends.

In Dinka traditions and other traditions, weddings are conducted in form of traditional ceremonies, which is different to the Western weddings.

In many people’s minds, weddings ceremonies are considered to be ceremonies whereby attendees will have fun, meet friends, and cheer up newly-weds. And in addition, as a great time and an opportunity to congratulate the couples on their big day ‘WEDDING NIGHT ‘ as a sign of happiness.

Happiness is everything for some reasons. As it is heard/spoken that money cannot buy you happiness. But it can buy you a boat and a truck to pull it. Happiness between two couples may not always be the greatest. But it can be the most greatest when there is a symbol of love and trust.

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Letter to Biar John

Posted: May 15, 2015 by PaanLuel Wël in Letters, Mamer Deng Jur

Dear Biar John: Covered up taunting remarks can be easily picked – up.

Mr. John, the reason for this short letter is to inform you that; I do sincerely appreciate your education, lecturing, and advice, even though your article was full of  ‘legal jargon’! Mr.

Mr. John, it is my opinion that you addressed your students by their names rather than by their countries of residence. This is where they may understand the author (Biar) intention and interest.

Otherwise, you are giving them hard time to read between the lines in order to understand the structure and the flow of your writing without confusion.

No hard feelings on my side, even though you have had referred me as ‘nervy friend’ to your unknown Australian friend.

Yours truly,

Mamer D. Jur


Dear Kur Wel Kur: Brightest thoughts don’t come from all of us.

In reply to your article about GM seeds. Your thoughts and analysis were bright and meaningful, I wish that, many of us could reform their writing of ‘hearsay’, which are baseless; and write critically about issues, which will affected us in short and long terms.

Well I know many people do really enjoy reading those nonsenses political opinions, which is fair enough in my mind. But it is pretty good if those nonsense were considered by those ‘ filthy and evil politicians and their followers.

Smartest countries know exactly what they grow, eat, drink, and smoke, likewise smartest people know what they eat, drink, and smoke. But dumb ‘KNOW no none’.

To retired, I think that 95% of opinion articles posted to Paanluelwel are based on ‘hearsay’ political activities, which they don’t even articulate well.

I am advising many authors including myself to write like Kur Wel Kur, and Paanluel wel. No hard feeling if you don’t like my suggestion.

For that reason, I think many of us are just bunch of ‘ANIMAL FARM’. ‘Can’t think for themselves’.

Yours truly,

Mamer D Jur.


Education: “Good education opens up empty minds into an open one”

By Mamer Deng Jur, Australia

engagement
April 14, 2015 (SSB)  —-  But, I think education has a generic definition, which can be used in many aspects. In short, it is a learning of new things.

Today many people in South Sudanese communities are putting backward their traditional education/knowledge in exchange for profound Western education. Meaning that, they are adopting Western cultures, rather than their own cultures. But these Western cultures they adopt, are not being properly understood by many people (South Sudanese) who may claim to have known these cultures well.

But consequences of such adoptions are so dearly; they cost the communities in many ways. Western values and Sudanese values are not ready yet to share the same bed together. The conflict of interests between the two is really killing South Sudanese communities’ spirit.

South Sudanese nowadays are currently hitting the hardest spot of Western education. Westerns’ education was established around 150 and 200 years ago. And imagine, you came yesterday and think that you could just fit in like any other person in this community of West.

In my opinion, I think it is not easy at all to just fit in and think that you are happy. So many people are hitting the hardest spot rather the simplest of its form.

LAWs

One of the reasons is that, 95% don’t understand laws at all or they do and they simply ignore them. Some don’t know how laws work and operate. Many of them have learnt those cheap laws of the street without better understanding.

For example, ideologies of calling the police, once a wife and a husband had a heated argument in the house. In most cases some of the men ended up beating their wife, which is unacceptable in Australia.

Secondly, such ideology of calling a police had also been adopted by a number of children in the community, which results into children being taken away from their parents by an agency called Child Protection.

But such agents are helpless, because many of them don’t even have children, so they don’t know how to educate young children. What is in their minds is a law that protects children, but what they don’t know is that, laws were derived out of human values.

FREEDOM

Many families nowadays are collapsing badly because of poor education, and currently nowadays, everyone in the family is happy to make a decision. But traditional and even in the West, decisions making are left to the head of the family (husband), but today females want to be male as well in order to make decisions.

Then if everyone were willing to make a decision in the family, then there would be no mutual understanding between the parties regardless of who faults who. And that why there is a high separations and divorces in South Sudanese communities, and Australian communities as well. Simply they don’t respect one another.

GIRLS’ EDUCATION

Our girls’ education in this country (Australia) is not helping the community at all, nor is it helping the receivers. But it is destroying the community in one-way or another. There is a much expectation from the community that girls should acquire knowledge for better community. Many of them pretend a lot that they are very smart, but smart people don’t spend many years at the Universities warming those beautiful lectures’ seats.

Best they could do, they should work hard to graduate as soon as expected. But the question on my side is that, why are our girls not graduating? And worse of all they are not even supporting the system (I means to work), it is okay with me (taxpayer) not to work while doing serious studies, but someone could still do a fair bit to support the system that support the nation.

In addition, many of them failed year 12 terribly, and ended up doing bridging course for sometimes in order to get an admission to enter to some universities of their interests. But really, if that was what an individual want, then why didn’t she scarify everything for that reason and study harder to pass year 12.

PROBLEM

But that is not the case, many of them do go to school, but they still act far worse than those rejected village girls. I think what most of them are learning today is FREEDOM. But lazy people cannot earn freedom. Simple rule of thumb, ‘to be free you need to work tirelessly to earn it’. You can’t just walk like model in rundle mall (a shopping mall in Adelaide city, Australia), thinking that you are free human beings.

Men are discouraged

Many men who are unsatisfied with girls’ performances leave Australia yearly for Africa to look for someone to marry as a future mother of their unborn children. They are seriously doing this, not because they are old, not graduates, and not that they cannot speak fluent English. They are doing it, because they want quality rather than quantity.

They want wives who are able and ready to run the family like a family business. Real wives are ready to respect their husband and expect to be respected by the husband. Wives who are willing to babysit, teach their children, rather than a Facebook addicts who are willing to babysit those confused people on the Facebook.

Forms four/six leavers in Kenya, Uganda, and South Sudan are ten times better than our a few graduates in this country (Australia). Reasons, they are equipped with traditional values like soldiers who are ready for combat against the enemy.

In contrast, our girls in Australia are very poor in handling men. They only think of freedom, which make them not to listen to their partners. Nowadays, they are using real bullets on their victims (men) while village girls are using rubber bullets on their victims (men). Well, THIS SHIT IS HOT!

You would have STAY TUNED! But other factors will not be discussed any further. Sorry for that inconvenient.

The opinion expressed here is solely the view of the writer. The veracity of any claim made are the responsibility of the author, not PaanLuel Wël: South Sudanese Bloggers (SSB) website. If you want to submit an opinion article or news analysis, please email it to paanluel2011@gmail.com. SSB do reserve the right to edit material before publication. Please include your full name, email address and the country you are writing from.

Marriage: High Risks of Girls to Price Tag – ‘indirect selling’ of another human being to another

By Mamer Deng Jur, Australia

engagement

April 7, 2015 (SSB)  —-  Opening idea. Last month one of my mate and his beautiful girlfriend did what was forgotten for sometimes – Engagement party.

Some years back, engagements were everything to all the newly arrived South Sudanese in Australia. Every mature adult would want badly to throw in an engagement party, including myself.

But serious financial crisis and the deadly uprising of casual sex among the opposite sex discouraged such intuition among many people.

Then for that reason, engagements had become very seriously ill, like a person suffering from unknown disease. For example, HIV or AIDS, when it first strikes in small town of Kasansero, in Uganda. These people of this town (Kasansero) knew nothing about the AIDS.

So they named it as ‘slim’ because of the shocking weight loss most sufferers experienced before dying. This disease for some reasons was said by ‘many people that it was luck of education’.

My community was growing backward in every calendar year, instead of growing forward, because education is not going through them, even when they are seriously learning.

Currently, if I am not wrong, for God sake, I believe that only 40% of people in my community know what they are doing, but rest of the people are spoiled by war/spoiled by civilisation; THIS IS VERY SAD, Indeed.

On 11th January 2015, I disembarked at Perth International Airport coming from Doha. When I turned on my cell phone, I got a text message from my mate that; I was invited to his engagement party, which was going to take place on 25th January 2015. I told myself, what! Is he kidding? Because engagements were not new ‘labels’ any more. I rang him in the morning to confirm the story, but it was true. Shit ‘was going down’!

Marriage is our life and an important element of our existence. Society exists because of marriage practices in every single community.

Price tag and love don’t stand on one platform.

Today it is pretty upsetting that human beings are up for sell, nowadays our girls, worth $130,000, before discount. But I am really sure; no human being is a property to be possessed. You and I can own a property, and treat it as we wish.

But you can’t do that to another ‘human being’. To be realistic, what comes with the package of $130,000? Someone could argue both quality and quantity. Quality would refer to that property you are purchasing, and quantity would referred to the amounts of money you would pay for that property.

Dressed civilised, but minds are still illiterate

Our fathers and uncles clung to old methods of doing things. Many of them have exempted themselves from factories, and they are very happy to be constant on welfare.

So it is very easy for them to say any amount they wish to say, because they don’t work. But if it happens that they work, then they would understand that standing for 12 hours plus is not a piece of cake. Then no one would make a mistake to say his daughter worth $130,000.

Most respected and least respected people in my community will lose hearing in the factories, and some will be adding weight, due to computer work. They are working very hard to meet the closest amount amount to $130,000, to marry their sisters, in order to support the community and its cultural values.

Culture

I know it is a culture thing, Mr.D robs Mr. M to pay off Mr. J, who would be better off? Mr.D? Mr.M? or J?

But consequently, many girls don’t deserve $130,000 because many of them are jerkies filled with ‘undercover’ things.

  • Excessive drinking of alcohol of all sorts – indeed such behaviour is against Dinka culture and it has zero tolerance in Dinka perspective.
  • Night club attendees
  • Smoking of shisha and cigarette- it also has a zero tolerance
  • Unfaithfulness to their husbands/boyfriends.
  • Many of them are lazy.
  • Community is full of young single mothers.

All the ‘above’ undercover things may led to economical stresses and socially instability to any man in the community who was born to change his community. However, 30% of our girls deserve ‘good men’ and do deserve 130,000. A person of greatest values, and personalities can’t be exchanged for money value or precious rare stone ‘diamond’. They worth more than a diamond.

Furthermore, our marriage values and cultures had been badly influenced by our neighbours’ countries, when we were settled as ‘refugees’.

Mixed cultures

We, South Sudanese living today in Australia, were refugees, in Egypt, Kenya, Ethiopia and Uganda. These countries had their own cultures, which have had influences on our cultures in one-way or another. But it would have had been well if we had one combined culture in Australia regarding marriage.

I will illustrate this point of view, by giving an example of Julius Nyerere. When Nyerere was a Prime Minister of Tanzania, he had a belief that in a nation made up of hundreds of different ethnic groups and coming from backgrounds as distinctive as Tanganyika and Zanzibar, then multiple political parties would destabilise the new nation.

So what he did, he had to move to suppress oppositions in all forms, not just the parties but culture themselves, and he tremendously introduced a policy that banned all language except his native Kiswahili.

Everything was nationalised, private businesses were destroyed, and Nyerere implemented a policy of ‘Ujamaa’ a little cousin to communism ideologies.

By applying Nyereres’ idea to my opinion, I think we, as a community, needs to have a policy regarding marriage issues in order to unit us as one.

Conclusion

Therefore it can be concluded that, our current marriage arrangements in the West need more justification to be done to them. I hope one day, my daughter will be a free woman in her own right, to do anything she likes, or loves and marries a man of her choice. I believe that, there would be no day, I would stand before everyone and demand that my daughter worth $130,000 dollars.

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The opinion expressed here is solely the view of the writer. The veracity of any claim made are the responsibility of the author, not PaanLuel Wël: South Sudanese Bloggers (SSB) website. If you want to submit an opinion article or news analysis, please email it to paanluel2011@gmail.com. SSB do reserve the right to edit material before publication. Please include your full name, email address and the country you are writing from.


Introduction

By Mamer Deng Jur, Australia

April 7, 2015 (SSB)  —-  CAUSUAL SEX: the popular uprising of very common practices of CASUAL SEX has seriously wounded Marriage Today in South Sudanese Communities in Australia.

Traditional marriage has been badly wounded in the back by the following encouraging factors:

  • Education
  • Used of drugs; contraception pills, and smoking of shisha
  • Used of protections; condoms
  • High prices – parents of daughters’ demanded are not exclusive at all;
  • And bodies built guys are also another threat to the marriage, and also lacks of responsibilities from many young couples.

And the most threatening virus as a master minder is casual sex. Threatening traditional marriage (thok) in this community, like an Ebola virus threatening the entirely world these days.

First of all, I would like to take this opportunity to apologies to anyone whom may find my article stressing and insulting. For disclosing some inmates private matters that no one wants to talk or hear about those facts. I know very well that 93% of the people loved to reads something that relates to politic, and smell politic.

But brothers and sisters true facts are true facts. If you cannot see the bright side, then polish the dull side. And I Mamer, sincerely appreciated PAANLUELWEL forgiving us a daily opportunity to shared our thoughts with our beautiful prudent readers who have had always spared their times and willing to read our thoughts.

Marriage issues and discussions are not always lovely safe heaven to play joke with. The area is stressful; especially for those who are faithful to unfaithful partners. All the communities in the world were built upon marriage, without marriage there would be no communities to called in the world.

According to Dinka people ‘marriage’ (thok) ‘is a union between one man and one woman or more women for their lives for the purpose of sexual cohabitation’. [1] In contrast, Australia (West) defined marriage ‘the union of a man and a woman to the exclusive of all others, voluntarily entered into life.

Elements of value marriage in Dinka culture

  • Consent (gem/gam) in Dinka.
  • Maturity (dit)
  • Dowries (hok thieek in Dinka)

Elements of valid marriage in the West

  • Consent from parents, especially when a girl or a boy happened to be under age (16 or 17). Parents’ consent is paramount in such situation, but that consent cannot reject the best interest of the child in question.
  • Capacity of a person to make a wise decision.
  • Love – people entered into this contract voluntarily

I know sexuality matters are not province of law to entertain. But they are left to individual morality principle – honesty principle.

Please look out for the above encouraging factors (1-5), because each of these factors will be thoroughly examined and explain in more depth on how they are affecting traditional marriage.

[1] Dr. Mohamed Fadlalla, Customary Laws in South Sudan.

The opinion expressed here is solely the view of the writer. The veracity of any claim made are the responsibility of the author, not PaanLuel Wël: South Sudanese Bloggers (SSB) website. If you want to submit an opinion article or news analysis, please email it to paanluel2011@gmail.com. SSB do reserve the right to edit material before publication. Please include your full name, email address and the country you are writing from.