What Every South Sudanese Girl Should Know before Grant her Waist.
By Heskey Deng Machol
Surely, the key to avoiding future grief is to act on the sign”, the first time, Woman saw the man, she felt that smarting something that caught her voice in her throat and set her heart pounding like America-hip hop beats, when the man returned his gawk and ask for her number, she thought, she had fallen out right there. The two of them, conversed on the phone a few times and had a couple of dates. The chemistry was pumping. Then came that awkward moment when he asked girl back to his place to hang out, or maybe it was the girl who invited him to her place, a kiss, touch, a whisper- that’s all it took for your body and mind to set up waging war, should I sleep with him? Will he respect me if I do? Will I respect myself?, late make the off beam choice and what should be beautiful morning- after memories could turn into the night you wish, you could forget- if you are lucky.
For many others, hasty decision can mean the difference between life and death, but currently few sisters make up their minds before considering the impact that sex with a new love could have on their health and soul, thank to them. Before making music, South Sudanese woman should do some weighty thinking, for each woman the choice brings its own challenges. Therefore the following are some issues that every sister should consider before grant waist or going all the way;
Be True To Yourself.
Have a personal one-on-one before you make any decision. Asking yourself why you want to go all the way, is he pressuring you? Will making love with him be healthy for your spirit? If you get plummeting feeling in your stomach, you should wait, but if you discover things that make him unattractive for a relationship and you still want to sleep with him, be honest with yourself about the consequences of that choice, but understand that, using sex to get love is a mistake.
Be Faithfully.
Glue to your boyfriend, don’t cheat him or hodgepodge him with another man, although, he is poor, hope and wait, as you know, good thing come to those who wait, one time he will be rich and will pleased you because no situation is permanent in this world.
Love Yourself.
There is only one who has to live with your choice- you, when you decide to go all the way, make sure the experience affirm you and that you accept nothing less than you deserve. Before sleeping with someone, love yourself, don’t let man borrow a beautiful gold chain, they value or a brand-new stereo, they just saved up enough to buy.
Take the Test.
One night of pleasure can become a lifetime of regret if you are not careful, so taking test together can be an expression of trust and sharing that brings you closer, {safe sex} because today casual sex can have devastating consequences such as AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases.
Talk About Sex
“Don’t wear your feelings on your sleeves on that point”, you should communicate before things get too unfathomable. Find out how he feels about sex and love, and don’t let huge money blind your heart to open your waist.
Beware of Mr. Smoother.
If you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas”, the saying goes, but this bit of motherwit often gets lost when it comes to having sex. When girls see handsome, some girls ignore the signs that could save their heart and head some trouble. The smoother or millionaires, the guys, the better he sounds, the more you want to believe him because he sounds so good, but that’s bullshit.
Don’t Rush to Bed.
Let wait Awhile, Janet Jackson song, which would make fitting anthem for how girls should view sex. Spend quality of time together hanging out before you make decision, it could be a month or two, no matter. I know that, some girls may be tempted by their man’s money or status to use sex as a method of keeping him interested, this strategy can backfire, so take your time, don’t worry about him leaving because if this person is yours by divine providence, you will have him in the future.
Forge a Spiritual Bond
Perhaps the final test of whether you should sleep with him is whether there will be something to build on tomorrow; true intimacy between two people begins before you lie down together. If you think, the only way you can find that closeness is through sex, you are in serious trouble
Check Out his Mother
Many experts say, a telltale sign of a man’s perception about woman can be found in his relationship with his mother, but don’t stop there, look at how he treats the other important ladies in his life- his sisters, aunts, female friends and co-workers. More importantly, consider how he treats you, is he pushy or chauvinistic? Does he demean your achievements or play down the importance of yours.
In conclusion with few points, if they put them into practicing, then they will surmount temptation from man. I’m really heart off with theirs sex performance now, they just sleep with the man, she meets in one day, is this really love? They value material than they make their bodies and minds, this comes to believe that girls should nerve sleep with someone, they would not consider marrying and having children in the future.
Realistically, the free-love era brought a lot of pain to today’s son and daughters, such as high divorce rates, AIDS and more children born out of wedlock as the consequences of casual sex. So sleeping with someone gains immeasurable meaning you share a spiritual and emotional connection, you should be able to trust people and show your vulnerabilities.
The best sex comes with someone you love, not random; the girls should value themselves and have enough self-respect that they experience each other spiritually to the fullest first and girls should know that, some men are living on this earth, but they are not qualified to live because they are demons, they are on the hunt for just the physical act to destroyed woman future, so if you run on those guys, you should make sure he is clear about that because the signals can get lost soon, you better quit him before he embarrassed you.
You can reach the author through his email: dengheskey@yahoo.com