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He was a great guy. Lovely, adorable, cute and handsomely awesome. The first time I saw him, my heart beats faster than normal. He squarely stole my heart on that very first sight. He is superbly mature, in mind and in the body. He is a guy who all ladies would want to be with. A guy you can never take your eyes off him when you look at him. This guy was solely my guy but as I talk to you now, everything has ended in jeopardy.  I hate him now, I hate him tomorrow and I hate him forever. This is a tale of a lady who divorces in three days after the honeymoon. Here is what she told me about her so called “lover”

Peter Okello – Human Rights Activist and Political Journalist

Peter Okello – Human Rights Activist and Political Journalist

July 24, 2017 (SSB) — It was a year ago when I met this guy in Juba grand hotel around three o’clock on Saturday. I was with my colleagues, just going out on a weekend vibes as usual. My friend Achang, left me shortly to receive her boyfriend who was at the hotel main gate. I was there seated waiting for her to come back.

Just in a blink of an eye, this guy who later called himself Johnny appeared from nowhere and ask me if I could allow him to seat beside me. I look at him, beginning from his legs to his forehead, he wasn’t bad at all. He is smart, cute and handsome.  Not to shame to the devil, I allowed him to the seat.

Guess what happened after he sat? This guy asks for my names, can you imagine! A total whole stranger asking for my names, wonders shall never end! Anyway, I had to tell him my names after he insisted for long. This after knowing my names, he started asking me if I could drink Blue moon and I diligently told him that I don’t drink but will try it in my honeymoon time. He said really, and I was like, yeah!

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By Zack Mayul, Nairobi, Kenya

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SPLM Reunification: President Museveni meets President Kiir and G-10 leaders in Kampala

July 24, 2017 (SSB) — With this generation, some parents will either break down this brick built mind ideology of over pricing their daughters, or ‘sell’ them off at a throw away bride price or maybe, to take what is available in the hand if they are not willing for yearly installments.

As far as am concern about this dot.com generation, where my brothers run away from responsibilities, and where the entire community toil to sponsor one son to study. How is it even necessary to satisfy one’s need before that of the people he wants to help? Where does self-actualization goal come in here?

Through struggle from primary, high school, and at the university, this boy has been helped by his father and mother in the village, brother in the USA, and his sister if there is any. Aside from that, cousins, uncles, or aunties have been giving a hand into making him a scholar, too.

When he graduates and get a job, all these people will all look up to him to divide his salary into equal halves. Apart from salaries, they will expect him to marry a decent girl from a known family because this is what the community requires him to do. A girl whose her father had been a wrestler, chief, or a traditional lawyer, or maybe a neighbor if he is lucky.

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Have you ever gone out with your boyfriend, just to chillax during the weekend at the riverside or in a classy hotel and then, when time for paying bills comes, your guy starts to pay for you or you boarded a taxi and this guy of yours claims to be paying everything and anything that your fingers had laid on, Ladies … “this gorgeous guy is controlling every second of your breath in his palms” Don’t allow your guy to pay for you, Here are the reasons why you shouldn’t allow your man to pay for your bills in a golden plate.

By Peter Okello, Juba, South Sudan

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Sabina Dario Lokolong, deputy minister for humanitarian affairs and disaster management, Nov 2011

July 22, 2017 (SSB) — Today, many people question the validity and viability of relationship and openly wonder if it should continue to be esteemed as the bedrock of modern social development. Ladies are habitually becoming the first hand victims than usual as men claims all the million responsibilities in this modern society.

What is the reason as to why your man wanted to be paying all the house bills, studying fees, transportation fares, lunch bills, cinema or games tickets, all the time, why? Why are you so reluctant to object his claims of being “Mr. responsible guy?

Listen ladies … men pretend to be very clever and they will tend to find many ways to persuade you so that you fall into their traps. There is no problem with your man paying bills but the mountain problem here is “he could be acting as being a nice and a responsible man now but in future trust me, this man of yours will starts excuses” just wait and you will see!

Well the world is a global village right now. So if your man is abroad or within Africa, you have nothing to worry about. You can call your man anytime and video chat with him. You have this sophisticated gadgets, don’t you? You own IPhone 7, Samsung 8, Techno 6 or Techno 6 plus, Black Berry, Sony Erickson, Infinix or Huawei phone.

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LADIES TOO … CAN SAY I LOVE YOU

Posted: July 19, 2017 by PaanLuel Wël in Junub Sudan, Peter Okello, Socio-Cultural

By Peter Okello, Juba, South Sudan

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LADIES TOO … CAN SAY I LOVE YOU

July 19, 2017 (SSB) — Did you ever fall in love? Have you ever seen this gorgeous-handsome guy, and his marvelous face glued to your mind! When you saw a guy and immediately your heart start beating so warmly, lady … you are invited by a beautiful friend called love!

Love can take place anywhere and everywhere. You can fall in love with anyone, anytime. You saw him at the movie theatre right, along the street perhaps, in the award winning concerts, or in a class lectures session, at the weekend party galore … wait a minute, you might have seen him in the public transport and that got you thinking!!!

You look at him, then you start imagining. Wow! This guy! This handsome-gorgeous guy. You can’t afford to turn your eyes off him, can you? All your mind wanted to know is to look at him, keep starring at him, just a little longer.

Love is not an act … it is a feeling. Where is it written in the Bible or Quran that it is a duty of a man to say I love you? I guess not. If I am wrong, then proof me wrong!

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By Chol Luka Awan, Juba, South Sudan

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Sabina Dario Lokolong, deputy minister for humanitarian affairs and disaster management, Nov 2011

January 5, 2017 (SSB) — Our people have had a very wrong perception about the educated girls or those who have gone to school. It has been and it is still a burden to most girls and really an abuse for them. After staying in schools for years till their late twenties or possibly thirties, they are misjudged by the public most especially the illiterate ones who are considered in today’s modern and traditional marriages.

To call a spade a spade but not a big spoon, they are said to be prostitutes, spoilt and old. They have been also falsely believed that when they are hurt after marriage, they immediately run for a divorce with an excuse that they are fit to survive anywhere since they possess their academic documents.

Though the public’s perception about educated girls may have an atom of the truth at some circumstances, I absolutely disagree in the following ways. As we understand very well that the world is growing daily into a better modern one, there is a high demand and a struggle to marry educated girls so that it becomes much easier to catch up with the speedy world of modernity.

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Barely a minute into start, the wrestling match ended inconclusively: Is it a draw or a cancellation?

November 19, 2016 (SSB) — The highly anticipated wrestling match between Gaduate Gongic Achiek Nai from Adol, Kolnyang payam of Bor County and Simba/President Magot Khot Ajak of Abiong (Ajuong), Maar payam of Twic East County,  what Philip Thon Aleu called “half a century wrestling match“, has ended inconclusively, with rival supporters debating whether it was a draw or a cancellation.

Traditionally, a wrestling round is about 3 minutes, but this one was halted about a minute into the match mainly because of some injuries sustained within the 1-minute interval. Graduate Gongic ended up with broken teeth while President Magot had a bleeding head. Possibly, in the heat of the moment, Gongic accidentally hit his teeth at Magot’s head, or conversely, Magot hit his head against Gongic’s teeth. See the clip (from Deng Dinka) above for more details and your own analysis and judgment.

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By Kuol Mayiir and Andrew Gai, Australia

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South Sudanese at the Olympic game, Rio, Brazil

August 8, 2016 (SSB) — As over 200 countries converge on Rio de Janeiro for the 2016 Olympics Games, there is one country that has never been there before and that country is the Republic of South Sudan. The historic appearance of South Sudan in the world’s most populous and biggest event came after the International Olympic Committee (IOC) accepted it as its 206th member nation in August 2015 in Kuala Lumpur.

Many South Sudanese around the world who were fortunate to see their country’s flag passing through the magnificent Maracanã Stadium during the opening ceremony, would have been filled with mix emotions; considering how far their country has come and the resilience of their athletes.

Participating in the 2016 Summer Olympic Games in Rio give South Sudanese something to celebrate under one banner (the flag) since December 2013 when the country went back to war against itself. One would hope that South Sudanese stop in-fighting for a moment and observe this historic occasion.

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By William Abur, Melbourne, Australia

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July 31, 2016 (SSB) —  I’m writing this piece of advice to my own South Sudanese people in Diaspora and particularly in Australia. People can take it or leave it, it is an intellectual advice. I’m pointing out the few problems that are sitting with us in Australia as community and lack of considerable of some good values in our culture as South Sudanese people.

It is about maintaining your own culture, values, and moral as people from the South Sudan. We had witnessed incredible and difficulties in our lives, but we also had witnessed incredible opportunities in our lives as individuals and as the community at large.

Our people migrated to a different part of the world, including Australia, a country where I’m living in as I’m writing this piece of message. There is what called freedom in Australia, a freedom which we literately mistake understood because we were misinformed by the people who were providing services for us.

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By Riak Marial Riak, Juba, South Sudan

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Let’s educate our girls

June 30, 2016 (SSB) — Father will I be sleeping a lone in the room for this quite long? Tell me my father; if this life is good for your son, Wadas questioned his father. My son I built the hut for you, what do you want that I should give you for a roommate, see the beautiful carpets I have bought for you, see the beautiful beddings in your room, what do you want my son that I should give you? His father said…..

My father I want someone to be around me, solitude is killing me, and birds’ mockery had satisfied my flesh, and always loneliness in the house, what do you think I am my father? Do you see me like an oasis that animals use to quench their thirst? Tell me if I am your son that you had sacrificed for live-days in the jungle of silence and solitude; tell me you the father of my sister Wadas said…..

I have last in your talking known that you want someone to appease you, someone to take over your stress, someone to quench your appalling heart, isn’t so? I have understood my son that you need a roommate to share with you words, to meditate together with you. Put me on top son, your father will call back your lovely brother whom you shared words together when both of you were still young, I know you’ll love it son, his father said……

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By Dak Buoth, Nairobi, Kenya

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Winners, Young Stars players celebrating their victory after the game at Safaricom National Stadium on 2nd May, 2016 Nairobi

May 6, 2016 (SSB)  —-  The South Sudanese soccer Tournament, organized by Naath football Association (NAFA) came to a successful closure yesterday (March 2) at Safaricom National stadium, also known as the Homes of Heroes at Moi International sports center in the capital Nairobi. The league began in earnest last month on 13th April. Normally, the above mentioned body NAFA organizes three football tournaments each year especially in the months of April, August and December. For those who may be unaware of its background, this league came to prominent nearly 9 years ago; before this tournament was elevated to Safaricom International stadium it was played at Maithaa Githurai, Kimbo, Ruiru and Downholm sport grounds and city sports facilities.

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Congrats to team Jonglei for terrific win, such a thrill for taking the trophy. Result of South Sudan Wrestling Entertainment between Jonglei State and Terkeka State held on April 23, 2016 at Juba Stadium in Juba-South Sudan

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Dinka wrestling matches

Jonglei vs. Terkeka

  1. Magot Khot 1-0 Awar Athorbei
  2. Lual Mawut 1-1 Malual Majilo (draw)
  3. Malok Akol 1-1 Kenyi Majilo (draw)
  4. Nhial Malueth 1-0 Kenyi Majaka
  5. Mading Malual 1-1 Teki Agunya (draw)
  6. Ajith Majak 1-0 Majok Morkulang
  7. Lueth Akech 1-1 Barjo Agut Amuor (draw)
  8. Deng Dau 1-0 Ngawu
  9. Aleer Achuoth 1-0 Telemi
  10. Commando Ateny 1-0 Leboko
  11. Jurkuch Mayom 1-0 Adonga
  12. Ajak Madol 0-1 Ladu Macek
  13. Mamer Ayor 0-1 Gonya
  14. Mathiang Chot 0-1 ————–
  15. Majur Ayuen 1-0 Kenyi

Final result is in favour of Jonglei with 8 wins against Terkeka’s 3 and 4 draws

From Magok Alier Akuot


By Deng Mach Deng, Bor, South Sudan

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Let’s educate our girls

April 11, 2016 (SSB)  —-  In my recent training with community stake holders on peaceful co-existence (collaborative dispute resolution) [CDR]. I found out that it will be hard to understand common law due to some reasons, especially on civil cases such divorce, force marriage, girl child education, adultery and misconception of human rights etc.

The argument was that some of the cases such as divorce should be done customarily citing common law as the one contributing to high rate of divorce, according to them divorce was the agreement between relatives of both parties whether to grant it or not, but currently there is nothing of that kind. More so, they accused judges on corruption that judges are being bribe and therefore, do not make absolute judgment hence high rate of divorce and too it is costly compare to local courts. In this regard as I witnessed some of the cases I do agreed with them.

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By Marol Ariech Mawien, Aweil, South Sudan

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July 23, 2015 (SSB) —- I’m with my fellow South Sudanese, we need to maintain our cultures’ dignities, by acting as a people who have known civilization but make sure your culture is the civilization, which you have gain. We need to take away dangerous things in our cultures and keep what is not affecting us. Chinese had still maintain their cultures, they even have Chinese cultural day, England and many western countries kept secrets in their cultures, but they are more advances than us South Sudanese, I don’t know why are we ignoring ourselves, we run away from our cultures, we see them as if they are bad.

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By Marol Ariech Mawien, Aweil, South Sudan

Dinka wrestling matches

Dinka wrestling matches

July 22, 2015 (SSB)  —-  Today our cultures are abolish in favor of western cultures, we value American, European cultures more than ours, you feel humanity, when you are almost moving naked a boy, a girl or women, you feel humanity if you are practicing something which was not in your culture. There is high rate of prostitution today because of this westernization culture, which you don’t care, a husband go for away matches, while he has wife at home, wife for the same business while her husband is at home, a boy and a girl, exactly why do we devalue our cultures, with the influence from doggy cultures, a culture where human beings act beyond animals thinking, today animals are better than human beings.

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Marol Ariech Mawien, Juba, South Sudan

Dinka wrestling matches

Dinka wrestling matches

July 19, 2015 (SSB) —- According to human right law, everybody has right to culture, that mean you can’t avoid your culture in adoption of other culture which was not yours, the creator is not guilty to created you and pinnacle with your own culture, to govern yourselves through your norms, or rituals. When there was no any system on this world, the system of culture used as way of governing and controlling the bad practice.

Today everybody see his culture as bad culture and he/she adopt other cultures, which do not have system of respect as man as woman, as wife as husband as daughter as son, everybody thinking that his/her existing on this world was through the existing of the new culture that he/she adopted, ignoring the way his/her people were been living thousand years ago up to today.

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 By Ter Manyang Gatwech, Kampala, Uganda

Ter Manyang, the author, is an administrator and the Chairman of Ayod Community in Kampala, Uganda

Ter Manyang, the author, is an administrator and the Chairman of Ayod Community in Kampala, Uganda

Patriarchy is a word that is often used in the study of women’s history and feminist theory, and often misunderstood. In this article you’ll find answers to some of the common questions about the word ‘’patriarchy’’ means and how its’ used.

June 30, 2015, (SSB) — what is patriarchy? Patriarchal describes a general structure in which men have power over women. Society is the entirety of relations of a community. A patriarchal society consists of a male-dominated power structure throughout organized in the social status quo.

A patriarchy, from the ancient Greek patriarchs, was a society where power was held by and passed down through the elder males. When modern historians and sociologists describe a ‘’patriarchal society’’, they mean that men hold the positions of power; head of the family unit, leader of social group, boss in the workplace and heads of government. The best example is South Sudan because South Sudan is where fellow countrywomen are still under control of men in public sector or private sector due to some stereotypes and glass ceiling.

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By Kastro Deng (Bor-Princè Mèngistu), Australia

Women rights are human rights

Women rights are human rights

April 29, 2015 (SSB)  —-   Politics, especially the one that pertains to South Sudan’s state of affairs, is no doubt the most discussed topic among South Sudanese youth, particularly the male segment of the population. It is discussed to a magnitude of neglecting other issues of concern. I wish to divert attention from the hardline politics, to a communal problem facing some South Sudanese families here in Australia. The topic has to do with purported suppression of women and their threat to patriarchy, which is manifested through behavioral-changes,as a result of their ‘over-independency’. Whenever participants on social media attempt to deliberate on this topic, its discussion is conducted in a manner that is disdainful and substantially superficial.

There is a basic philosophy that we as human beings ought to observe and live life in adherence to. It pertains to the role that both genders play in raising families. Nature has charged men with two simple duties; namely, to protect and provide for all women and children under their guidance, whereas their female counterparts assume the duty of nourishing and catering to the needs of those who are under their care. As long as males and females do not compromise the duties assigned to opposite gender -without mutual consent -euphoria is inevitable. It is when we get our roles mixed up – men start playing women’s role and vice versa – that families start to have problems. For example, a male would feel threatened if a woman provides for the family and subjects him to culinary duties. This situation has the potential to cause domestic-strife,particularly if the male hails from a culture or society where it is taboo for men to perform housework, as per the norms and customs held and observed by practitioners of the culture.

Why do men feel threatened by women’s success/independence?

Men, especially those from patriarchal cultures, born and bred in a society where it is a norm for a lady to love and cater for them, while they protect and provide in return, will most likely react harshly,against any adopted-lifestyle that puts culture into question. In occasions where roles are reversed and ladies start providing for the family, patriarchal-culturati would feel threatened because what they deem psychologically and practically normative (patriarchy)becomes obsolete.There are instances where males’ reaction is, without a doubt,unjustifiable. However, there are occasions where their reactions are warranted and justifiable. Discussing these specific instances is the aim of this article.

When are men’s negative reactions toward women’s independence NOT justifiable?

A man’s hostility towards a woman due to her success is especially not justifiable if the woman’s independence is not necessarily a threat to culture. There are ladies out there with real aspirations, to be successful and to raise affluent families. In all honesty,there is nothing wrong with that. In the context of a South Sudanese family for example, it means a woman is able to assist her man with basic responsibilities including taking care of herself, caring for her own children, financially supporting her side of family and to a certain degree, assume other responsibilities,which would otherwise weighted on…her husband’s shoulders.It means that a woman do not have to be entirely dependent on her man. What is wrong with the sharing of responsibility?

This is beneficial to men, especially husbands who are into polygamy (widely-practiced). Suppressing a woman that only desire to be successful benevolently and who intents not to violate culture in anyway is an unjust contravention of her freedom. Therefore, it is a laudable practice to encourage women to be successful and independent, as so long as their ‘financial independence’ does not seek to change the role(s)that they represent in men’s lives. Males’ misconception of the women’s independence should be discouraged.Us men need to understand that, empowered women educate their children well, who in turn empowers the society. We always brag about the need for economic development. It is worth noticing that an economic growth has a synergetic relationship with social-well being. So put an end to suppression of women and be supportive to their quest to succeed.

When are men’s reactions towards women’s‘over-dependency’ reasonable?

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Some women take their state of independence way over their heads. For simplicity, lets consider the issue of financial over-independence. Lets bring the discussion back to its context and look at situation of an average South-Sudanese family residing in Australia. Following the initiation and implementation of the Government Funded Family-Daycare Program, a number of South Sudanese women have become wealthy, as a result of their participation in the program.Now consider this hypothetical scenario: A woman starts earning more than her husband, hence contributes more to the family budget. As she assumes the role of being the primary provider, she starts to believe that her status in the family is elevated beyond her man, thus she starts to exhibit behavioral changes, for instance__dictating most of the family decisions.As she becomes more authoritative, her decisions become incompatible with husband’s views. In light where she shows no willingness to remedy her decisions,a conflict of interest arises;eventually the husband would cave in or else! You know, the triple zero service is always at her disposal.

The more men are dictated to, the more agitated they become. In patriarchal societies, men’s dependency on women is deemed as a negative distortion to culture. Sometimes, some manipulative and cunning women take advantage of men’s dependency and use it as an opportunity to challenge men’s manhood and emasculate them. Men’s subjection to such circumstances leads to distress. Consequently, men start taking measures in an attempt to overcome their ordeals. Some men would resort to excessive consumption of alcohol and (sometimes) other toxic substances with intentions of easing the resultant afflictions. But as we all know, the effects of intoxicants in the body subside over time and men start to face the same problems. As an alternative, others choose to go to popular rendezvous to play games (dominoes and cards) with other idle or afflicted men just to keep their brains occupied (stress free) or to kill time. For some to alleviate themselves from distress, they look elsewhere for comfort, here they would often find love or run into more problems. Worse comes to worst when men fall victim to the insensitively expressed vanities of other successful acquaintances,who belittle them,exacerbating their already low self-esteems.

Even more concerning is the situation where‘financially well off ladies”up-grade their love lives by romanticizing more successful bachelors than their previous partners. This results in the women leaving their old lovers miserable, in mental-states of solitude and despair. Nevertheless, when the reality becomes unbearable, domestic violence ensues, further intensifying a tense situation and fracturing the family. The aftermath of losing one’s wife is it too painful, that it can only be compared to a pain of a sinner whose soul has been subjected to an infinite torment. In the case of a nuclear family, children’s fates are unaccounted for. Their aspirations turn to façades of unattainable hopes. What was once a happy home is demolished and turned into debris of shattered dreams. A wife is to man a symbol of pride and his children are a source of happiness. Surely, this explains why men in some cultures commit themselves to pay an exorbitant quantity of money or heads of cattle as bride price.Thus one can only imagine the severity of pain that a lost of such social investment precipitates.

To sum it all up, the above-mentioned hypotheses might not be ideal representations of reality. However, I hope they are close enough to depict real life scenarios responsible of breaking families apart. Thorough research has not been done on this topic, though it would be helpful, but the purpose of this paper is to divert attention to matters that are as worthy of attention as political topics that often take the center-stage of discussion. It is imperative that men do not feel threatened by women’s success. Not all women are malevolent towards their male partners once independent. As emphasized above, their well-guided success is advantageous to our (men) well-being and to the society at large. Therefore,it is vital that we acknowledge and support women’s social, economic and political development.

Moreover, females should not let their independence compromise culture. While it is perfectly fine to be an independent woman, to be in charge of yourself and your assets, and of course to show-off your luxurious kitchen and living room to your girlfriends as a result of your independent labor always do so modestly. Do not take your independence over your head. Know when not to tamper with what your culture requires of you. Most importantly, be in a position to play a woman’s role in a man’s life. Despites your success, be his lover and a source of emotional support, as he endeavors to be your protector and a provider. Perpetuate culture, for you cannot change patriarchy with belligerence or arrogance. Yes culture is not static; it changes with time. But even then, one cannot change the course that Mother Nature has pre-ordained for them. We have seen how the female gender in all species is so protective of their young. No one taught the Hen to be over-protective of her chooks. The same goes for human mothers. The uniformity of tender love and nourishment was bestowed upon females by nature.To females, it is an inescapable trait. Allow nature to take its toll, all must continually preserve what nature has vested upon them.

Disclaimer: This work is entirely based on opinion. No research is incorporated. The scenarios in this piece are all hypothetical and the presented information is based on a general observation. The piece aims to present an important topic of discussion that is not political. The hypotheses incorporated are building blocks, which the discussion can be deliberated upon. Discussing such matters enables an avenue of learning and derives ways to prevent consequential choices or decisions.


Education: “Good education opens up empty minds into an open one”

By Mamer Deng Jur, Australia

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April 14, 2015 (SSB)  —-  But, I think education has a generic definition, which can be used in many aspects. In short, it is a learning of new things.

Today many people in South Sudanese communities are putting backward their traditional education/knowledge in exchange for profound Western education. Meaning that, they are adopting Western cultures, rather than their own cultures. But these Western cultures they adopt, are not being properly understood by many people (South Sudanese) who may claim to have known these cultures well.

But consequences of such adoptions are so dearly; they cost the communities in many ways. Western values and Sudanese values are not ready yet to share the same bed together. The conflict of interests between the two is really killing South Sudanese communities’ spirit.

South Sudanese nowadays are currently hitting the hardest spot of Western education. Westerns’ education was established around 150 and 200 years ago. And imagine, you came yesterday and think that you could just fit in like any other person in this community of West.

In my opinion, I think it is not easy at all to just fit in and think that you are happy. So many people are hitting the hardest spot rather the simplest of its form.

LAWs

One of the reasons is that, 95% don’t understand laws at all or they do and they simply ignore them. Some don’t know how laws work and operate. Many of them have learnt those cheap laws of the street without better understanding.

For example, ideologies of calling the police, once a wife and a husband had a heated argument in the house. In most cases some of the men ended up beating their wife, which is unacceptable in Australia.

Secondly, such ideology of calling a police had also been adopted by a number of children in the community, which results into children being taken away from their parents by an agency called Child Protection.

But such agents are helpless, because many of them don’t even have children, so they don’t know how to educate young children. What is in their minds is a law that protects children, but what they don’t know is that, laws were derived out of human values.

FREEDOM

Many families nowadays are collapsing badly because of poor education, and currently nowadays, everyone in the family is happy to make a decision. But traditional and even in the West, decisions making are left to the head of the family (husband), but today females want to be male as well in order to make decisions.

Then if everyone were willing to make a decision in the family, then there would be no mutual understanding between the parties regardless of who faults who. And that why there is a high separations and divorces in South Sudanese communities, and Australian communities as well. Simply they don’t respect one another.

GIRLS’ EDUCATION

Our girls’ education in this country (Australia) is not helping the community at all, nor is it helping the receivers. But it is destroying the community in one-way or another. There is a much expectation from the community that girls should acquire knowledge for better community. Many of them pretend a lot that they are very smart, but smart people don’t spend many years at the Universities warming those beautiful lectures’ seats.

Best they could do, they should work hard to graduate as soon as expected. But the question on my side is that, why are our girls not graduating? And worse of all they are not even supporting the system (I means to work), it is okay with me (taxpayer) not to work while doing serious studies, but someone could still do a fair bit to support the system that support the nation.

In addition, many of them failed year 12 terribly, and ended up doing bridging course for sometimes in order to get an admission to enter to some universities of their interests. But really, if that was what an individual want, then why didn’t she scarify everything for that reason and study harder to pass year 12.

PROBLEM

But that is not the case, many of them do go to school, but they still act far worse than those rejected village girls. I think what most of them are learning today is FREEDOM. But lazy people cannot earn freedom. Simple rule of thumb, ‘to be free you need to work tirelessly to earn it’. You can’t just walk like model in rundle mall (a shopping mall in Adelaide city, Australia), thinking that you are free human beings.

Men are discouraged

Many men who are unsatisfied with girls’ performances leave Australia yearly for Africa to look for someone to marry as a future mother of their unborn children. They are seriously doing this, not because they are old, not graduates, and not that they cannot speak fluent English. They are doing it, because they want quality rather than quantity.

They want wives who are able and ready to run the family like a family business. Real wives are ready to respect their husband and expect to be respected by the husband. Wives who are willing to babysit, teach their children, rather than a Facebook addicts who are willing to babysit those confused people on the Facebook.

Forms four/six leavers in Kenya, Uganda, and South Sudan are ten times better than our a few graduates in this country (Australia). Reasons, they are equipped with traditional values like soldiers who are ready for combat against the enemy.

In contrast, our girls in Australia are very poor in handling men. They only think of freedom, which make them not to listen to their partners. Nowadays, they are using real bullets on their victims (men) while village girls are using rubber bullets on their victims (men). Well, THIS SHIT IS HOT!

You would have STAY TUNED! But other factors will not be discussed any further. Sorry for that inconvenient.

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Marriage: High Risks of Girls to Price Tag – ‘indirect selling’ of another human being to another

By Mamer Deng Jur, Australia

engagement

April 7, 2015 (SSB)  —-  Opening idea. Last month one of my mate and his beautiful girlfriend did what was forgotten for sometimes – Engagement party.

Some years back, engagements were everything to all the newly arrived South Sudanese in Australia. Every mature adult would want badly to throw in an engagement party, including myself.

But serious financial crisis and the deadly uprising of casual sex among the opposite sex discouraged such intuition among many people.

Then for that reason, engagements had become very seriously ill, like a person suffering from unknown disease. For example, HIV or AIDS, when it first strikes in small town of Kasansero, in Uganda. These people of this town (Kasansero) knew nothing about the AIDS.

So they named it as ‘slim’ because of the shocking weight loss most sufferers experienced before dying. This disease for some reasons was said by ‘many people that it was luck of education’.

My community was growing backward in every calendar year, instead of growing forward, because education is not going through them, even when they are seriously learning.

Currently, if I am not wrong, for God sake, I believe that only 40% of people in my community know what they are doing, but rest of the people are spoiled by war/spoiled by civilisation; THIS IS VERY SAD, Indeed.

On 11th January 2015, I disembarked at Perth International Airport coming from Doha. When I turned on my cell phone, I got a text message from my mate that; I was invited to his engagement party, which was going to take place on 25th January 2015. I told myself, what! Is he kidding? Because engagements were not new ‘labels’ any more. I rang him in the morning to confirm the story, but it was true. Shit ‘was going down’!

Marriage is our life and an important element of our existence. Society exists because of marriage practices in every single community.

Price tag and love don’t stand on one platform.

Today it is pretty upsetting that human beings are up for sell, nowadays our girls, worth $130,000, before discount. But I am really sure; no human being is a property to be possessed. You and I can own a property, and treat it as we wish.

But you can’t do that to another ‘human being’. To be realistic, what comes with the package of $130,000? Someone could argue both quality and quantity. Quality would refer to that property you are purchasing, and quantity would referred to the amounts of money you would pay for that property.

Dressed civilised, but minds are still illiterate

Our fathers and uncles clung to old methods of doing things. Many of them have exempted themselves from factories, and they are very happy to be constant on welfare.

So it is very easy for them to say any amount they wish to say, because they don’t work. But if it happens that they work, then they would understand that standing for 12 hours plus is not a piece of cake. Then no one would make a mistake to say his daughter worth $130,000.

Most respected and least respected people in my community will lose hearing in the factories, and some will be adding weight, due to computer work. They are working very hard to meet the closest amount amount to $130,000, to marry their sisters, in order to support the community and its cultural values.

Culture

I know it is a culture thing, Mr.D robs Mr. M to pay off Mr. J, who would be better off? Mr.D? Mr.M? or J?

But consequently, many girls don’t deserve $130,000 because many of them are jerkies filled with ‘undercover’ things.

  • Excessive drinking of alcohol of all sorts – indeed such behaviour is against Dinka culture and it has zero tolerance in Dinka perspective.
  • Night club attendees
  • Smoking of shisha and cigarette- it also has a zero tolerance
  • Unfaithfulness to their husbands/boyfriends.
  • Many of them are lazy.
  • Community is full of young single mothers.

All the ‘above’ undercover things may led to economical stresses and socially instability to any man in the community who was born to change his community. However, 30% of our girls deserve ‘good men’ and do deserve 130,000. A person of greatest values, and personalities can’t be exchanged for money value or precious rare stone ‘diamond’. They worth more than a diamond.

Furthermore, our marriage values and cultures had been badly influenced by our neighbours’ countries, when we were settled as ‘refugees’.

Mixed cultures

We, South Sudanese living today in Australia, were refugees, in Egypt, Kenya, Ethiopia and Uganda. These countries had their own cultures, which have had influences on our cultures in one-way or another. But it would have had been well if we had one combined culture in Australia regarding marriage.

I will illustrate this point of view, by giving an example of Julius Nyerere. When Nyerere was a Prime Minister of Tanzania, he had a belief that in a nation made up of hundreds of different ethnic groups and coming from backgrounds as distinctive as Tanganyika and Zanzibar, then multiple political parties would destabilise the new nation.

So what he did, he had to move to suppress oppositions in all forms, not just the parties but culture themselves, and he tremendously introduced a policy that banned all language except his native Kiswahili.

Everything was nationalised, private businesses were destroyed, and Nyerere implemented a policy of ‘Ujamaa’ a little cousin to communism ideologies.

By applying Nyereres’ idea to my opinion, I think we, as a community, needs to have a policy regarding marriage issues in order to unit us as one.

Conclusion

Therefore it can be concluded that, our current marriage arrangements in the West need more justification to be done to them. I hope one day, my daughter will be a free woman in her own right, to do anything she likes, or loves and marries a man of her choice. I believe that, there would be no day, I would stand before everyone and demand that my daughter worth $130,000 dollars.

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Introduction

By Mamer Deng Jur, Australia

April 7, 2015 (SSB)  —-  CAUSUAL SEX: the popular uprising of very common practices of CASUAL SEX has seriously wounded Marriage Today in South Sudanese Communities in Australia.

Traditional marriage has been badly wounded in the back by the following encouraging factors:

  • Education
  • Used of drugs; contraception pills, and smoking of shisha
  • Used of protections; condoms
  • High prices – parents of daughters’ demanded are not exclusive at all;
  • And bodies built guys are also another threat to the marriage, and also lacks of responsibilities from many young couples.

And the most threatening virus as a master minder is casual sex. Threatening traditional marriage (thok) in this community, like an Ebola virus threatening the entirely world these days.

First of all, I would like to take this opportunity to apologies to anyone whom may find my article stressing and insulting. For disclosing some inmates private matters that no one wants to talk or hear about those facts. I know very well that 93% of the people loved to reads something that relates to politic, and smell politic.

But brothers and sisters true facts are true facts. If you cannot see the bright side, then polish the dull side. And I Mamer, sincerely appreciated PAANLUELWEL forgiving us a daily opportunity to shared our thoughts with our beautiful prudent readers who have had always spared their times and willing to read our thoughts.

Marriage issues and discussions are not always lovely safe heaven to play joke with. The area is stressful; especially for those who are faithful to unfaithful partners. All the communities in the world were built upon marriage, without marriage there would be no communities to called in the world.

According to Dinka people ‘marriage’ (thok) ‘is a union between one man and one woman or more women for their lives for the purpose of sexual cohabitation’. [1] In contrast, Australia (West) defined marriage ‘the union of a man and a woman to the exclusive of all others, voluntarily entered into life.

Elements of value marriage in Dinka culture

  • Consent (gem/gam) in Dinka.
  • Maturity (dit)
  • Dowries (hok thieek in Dinka)

Elements of valid marriage in the West

  • Consent from parents, especially when a girl or a boy happened to be under age (16 or 17). Parents’ consent is paramount in such situation, but that consent cannot reject the best interest of the child in question.
  • Capacity of a person to make a wise decision.
  • Love – people entered into this contract voluntarily

I know sexuality matters are not province of law to entertain. But they are left to individual morality principle – honesty principle.

Please look out for the above encouraging factors (1-5), because each of these factors will be thoroughly examined and explain in more depth on how they are affecting traditional marriage.

[1] Dr. Mohamed Fadlalla, Customary Laws in South Sudan.

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