THREE DIFFERENT TYPES OF WOMEN WITH ONE COMMON GOAL
By Amer Mayen Dhieu, Brisbane
They say Love is blind, but I disagree with this saying. Both men and women know what they both want in each other. Though the rule is that man have to make the first move, especially with African cultures most women have a set of different goals they follow to help them choose and find their love ones. These set of goals can either be wanting to get married as soon as possible, looking for an intimate friendship and finding love later on or finding the one you are compatible with by first studying common interests then fall in love.
WANTING TO GET MARRIED: Women at this category focus on who is ready to get married. I don’t see it as being blinded by love but having marriage as their number one priority. As we might all know, the first stage of a relationship is “liking” someone. Women who are ready to get married doesn’t just like any man that approach them simply because “like” is influence by either physical look, expression or capabilities. They are considered as being influence by man’s capability to marry them on the spot.
LOOKING FOR POSSIBLE INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP AND THEN FIND LOVE LATER ON: Women in this category are in between those who love to get married and those who study their love ones base on share common goals and interests and find love later on. It’s hard to tell whether they are seriously in love or just into friendship. Why, because they don’t mind searching for intimate friendship from different types of men. Most men find it hard to trust them because of lack of commitment and sometimes dedication to one relationship. The pressure of searching for their perceived real love sometimes becomes a journey of thousand miles. The more they spent searching the less they become interested.
LAST ARE THOSE WOMEN THAT CHOOSE THIER PARTNERS BASED ON WHO THEY ARE MORE COMPATIBLE WITH: This type of women are likely to be educated, dreamers who aim for the highest aspiration or ambitious. By compatibility most of them look into share interest like hobbies, careers, desires or share experiences and personalities. Their goal is to be able to meet each others (man and woman) needs with feeling of motivation to do so. Being able to support their partners with feelings that they are doing it for themselves for it is what they like to do too.
Some in the same category might be specifically looking for one goal such as marrying educated man because they are educated. These type of women carry a perception that educated people knows their needs with mutual understanding of each person’s interest. sadly, most women in this category come with high confidence that sometimes make it hard for men to easily invest in them. Most men too perceive them us competitors lacking knowledge of domestic works. Some have reportedly chosen not get married because they found it hard to be in a relationship. This is not because they can’t afford to be in it, but because they find it contradictory with their already acquired knowledge.
In summary these three types of women eventually, end up with the same goal, and that’s love. One can understand that to be in everlasting love there has to be a certain point where you feel your targets are being met first before you fall in love. Therefore, contrary to popular adage that love is blind, I believe it’s impossible for love to blind you to the point whereby you forget what you want in your partner for love is just a soup in need of ingredients and those ingredients are common share interests and goals.
Amer@ 2014
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