How to identify jealous people in our community
6 min readBy Mok Dei Gual, Kampala, Uganda
March 20, 2016 (SSB) —- It has been said that the surest way to live your life happy is to never think about what other people think of you so that their opinions might not create your reality. Jealousy is extremely dangerous that destroyed this world. In others word jealousy can kill and it happened and I have right to advise you when dealing with your jealousy friends because their aims are to see you unhappy provided that their values do not stop them.
In other words jealousy people will harm you as much as their values allow them. Why do people gossip shows that, the only reason behind gossiping are personal flaws. People who sometimes gossip consider themselves that they are not importance to you and that is why they might to gossip about you or jealousy of you. On the other hand their intentions are to make sure that the rest of the people should hate you and that is the reason behind their jealous and gossip about you. If you are too brilliant on one life area then you will attract jealous people and they might be hated you for it..
How to identify jealousy people in your community.
There are many ways to find out jealousy people in wherever you are around this world. They always try to put other people down to make themselves worthy. There are four steps that satisfied you with jealousy people in your community.
- Criticism accompanied with negative energy. Your best friend can criticize you because he is concerned about you but in some cases this criticism comes accompanied with negative energy in such a way that shows the presence of jealousy. A real friend will usually criticize you in private while a jealousy person will do it in public. Iam sure you had that person who once criticized you on your Facebook wall in front of everyone. Most probably that person is jealousy of you and that is the reasons some people criticize others to putting them down.
- Bad Mouthing you…gossiping is one of the most powerful signs of jealousy. The person who is jealousy of you will always want to put you down in front of others. For many reasons he might not be able to do this in front of you and as the result he might do it in your absence.
- Putting you down. There is a difference between criticizing someone and putting him down. A jealousy person will always try to devalue you in order to feel good about himself and as a result you will find him putting you down all the times. He might also blame you for his bad feeling like you have wronged him to other people. Self-doubt and self-talks might destroy his inner human being and he can easily destroy his relationship with others. Person like this is not only weak but also he has the lack of self-confidence.
- Would not Congratulate You. This is also one of the most powerful signs that shows that someone is jealous. A jealous person will find it very hard to congratulate you on your success. He will even become unhappy when he finds you happy or successful. Do you want to find out who your friends are? Announce good news in front of the person whom you want to test and see his reactions.
Another issue is how to deal with the people who gossip about you.
Confident people do not gossip and they used to asking themselves why do people gossip? A big part of dealing with people who gossip about you is understanding gossip, the thoughts that run in the mind of those who gossip and the psychology behind gossiping. Most people have misinformed that, its politics but it does not relate to politics. Politics is all about finding out faults from someone else in the country. Honest politicians do not insult other politicians because they are confident people. Politics has nothing to do with gossips in the country.
People who judge others, who want to put others down, and who gossip about you have ideas of making themselves worthy and they are most jealousy people on earthy. The person who gossips is someone who carries some resentment toward you and does not have courage to face you directly and he found no other option than talking about you in your absence. People will gossip about you if they are jealous of you, if they are not strong enough to face you with their concern or if they feel worthless. Those people try to make themselves more worthy by saying that they are better than someone else.
Dealing with the gossip people in your community.
In our country politics it’s easy for others to gossip about people who have disagreed with them in politics in order to make themselves worthy. People who try to make fun of you are jealous people and they have doubt their capacities to face you directly and that is the reason they sometimes talks about you at your absence. You now know that the people who gossip about you are really suffering from serious issues and that there is no other explanation for gossip other than an emotional imbalance that is affecting the gossiper behavior.
The gossip and jealous people always want to see negative side of what you have to do but they cannot appreciated positive side of it. There is one step which most people used to do when dealing with gossip people in the community.
- Let him burn…This is one of favorite strategies, if someone is gossiping about others because of jealousy and then send them good news about yourself and let them burn by themselves. Jealous people sometimes disrespect others and they can putting other people down. Their aims are to violate your rights and they can start destroying your relationship with others by making themselves worthy. It has been said that when people gossip about you, it probably mean that you are better than them. Be advice to understand who you are in order to ignore the comments of somebody who wants to put you down. Importance people are those who do not gossip about and jealous of others. It’s better to be well educated to understand human being on earth.
Author is the student who pursuing a bachelor of social work and community development…
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