South Sudanese: Let’s Rather Marry “The Educated Ones”

Posted: January 5, 2017 by PaanLuel Wël in Commentary, Contributing Writers, Opinion Articles, Opinion Writers, Socio-Cultural
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By Chol Luka Awan, Juba, South Sudan

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Sabina Dario Lokolong, deputy minister for humanitarian affairs and disaster management, Nov 2011

January 5, 2017 (SSB) — Our people have had a very wrong perception about the educated girls or those who have gone to school. It has been and it is still a burden to most girls and really an abuse for them. After staying in schools for years till their late twenties or possibly thirties, they are misjudged by the public most especially the illiterate ones who are considered in today’s modern and traditional marriages.

To call a spade a spade but not a big spoon, they are said to be prostitutes, spoilt and old. They have been also falsely believed that when they are hurt after marriage, they immediately run for a divorce with an excuse that they are fit to survive anywhere since they possess their academic documents.

Though the public’s perception about educated girls may have an atom of the truth at some circumstances, I absolutely disagree in the following ways. As we understand very well that the world is growing daily into a better modern one, there is a high demand and a struggle to marry educated girls so that it becomes much easier to catch up with the speedy world of modernity.

A modern woman who has gone to school will understand his husband in family matters. That is in times of family budget. She will not compare his husband with other men. She will understand the husband’s occupation and profession and therefore determine the amount earned resulting within the family.

On the other hand of raising children, they will take education as something valuable hence making it a priority despite the gender difference among the children. An educated woman looks at things from all directions. From the top to the bottom. She will be able to understand both cultural and modern issues hence portraying the sense of equality among the relatives on both sides.

As far as this modern life is concerned, there is a need for collective responsibility whereby an educated woman will offer herself to do anything possible shamelessly just for the need of her family development no matter what it takes. For she has understood how the world is shaped. It is round.

She will be able to endure the great patience for her family set goals till they are achieved in the long run. I seriously assure you dear readers that educated girls are really interesting. They don’t play a hide and seek game. They are always straight forward for clarity.

Whenever they mention a word yes, take note of it. It is a real yes and likewise to the word no. If they have devoted their full time and energy necessary to love you, just have everlasting happiness till Jesus Christ comes back.

You will be a king in your home and raise your princes and princesses happily in a very conducive environment of joy without any interruption. It is a high time that we ended polygamous marriages.

I know you like those who have not gone to school much because they have  shallow minds that can be easily coaxed so as to make classroom of ladies in your home and raise that perfect traditional of respect and honor.

To contradict a bit with my own argumentation, we cannot avoid those sisters who have not gone to school much. In some cases, it is not their fault that they did not study.

They are there very beautiful and hardworking (lost boys’ wives). Others can accept changes though in most times, they love negatives changes. Let it just depend on the depth of your affection but I prefer the educated ones.

You can reach the author via his email: Luka Awan <lukaawan495@gmail.com>

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  1. Alam says:

    You missed a point! Educated girls are liked by man because they have a lot to offer to their families and to the families they married into. The issue dear writer is that they tend to adopted very quick to bad habits and prone to many behaviors outside and we would called them immoral in our South Sudanese standards. Would you married a girl that was a known whores in your school when you where a PHD student because she happen to be educated and had a PHD too. Do you think she will be a good wife? Those are the things our people are concern about. It is not that they are educated. Their behaviors are what are out of whack most of the time because they think they are educated and perhaps they should act different then less educated girls. Educated South Sudanese girls tend to be less culturally conservative and that is a big problem. I do think you want to marry an educated girl that was fucking Gatluak until six month ago and were known as BF and GF. Gatluak may catch feelings late and broken into your house while you are teaching at the University of Juba. Food for Thought Educated South Sudanese Girls. Be considerate if you want to get married girls. Tune your wildness side down plz.

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    • I have not missed what you listed brother! “They have a lot to offer to their families and the families they are married to,” as u said. It is what I have narrated and that is why I prefer educated girls. Thanks!

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  2. Kuai Wuoi Matiop says:

    I think it is better to marry an educated girl; an educated wife knows the best food for her child and family. An illiterate woman knows nothing about balanced diet. Research has shown that child mortality is high among uneducated women. A gud girl is one who is never caught! There r village girls who r worst than those in towns in terms of chastity. Remember, no man has, in history, move around looking for a virgin! I disagree with the view in the comment above that educated girls easily adapt to foreign cultures. It is the illiterate girl who easily wants to try new life/culture coz she has little or no experience. But its abnormality for an educated gentleman to marry an illiterate girl…reason is that they hv different understanding and perception about life, family, work, relationships to mention a few. U can disagree on a small issue simply coz her understanding or logic is low.As rightly stated by the writer, illiteracy for some girls is not their fault, she may hv some other qualities of a human being. One can marry her if they love each other. Thanks Luka Awan Chol for your gud article.

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  3. This is a great piece in favor of the educated girls. i would like to remind you that not all educated ladies are learned as well suit for a good wife (every man’s fantasy).

    I agree with you in the above mentioned points but the fact is that Marriage and Education are two different entities that both can exist with or without each other. All i know as a good wife is a loyal one, with much intelligence, of course wise with open mind.

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