Archive for September 14, 2011

French Woman Sues Husband for Lack of Sex

Posted: September 14, 2011 by PaanLuel Wël Media Ltd. in Socio-Cultural

By Molly Fergus | Yahoo! Contributor Network – Tue, Sep 13, 2011

Husbands and wives, take note: The phrase, “Not tonight, honey,” could end up costing quite a bit more than a bruised ego and grumbled acceptance.

A French wife sued her husband and won about $14,000 because he didn’t have sex with her enough, according to Time.

The wife sued her husband about two years ago for the waning bedroom activity over 21 years of marriage, and now the Nice, France, judge has ruled that a lack of copulation is indeed a violation of the marital contract.

“A sexual relationship between husband and wife is the expression of affection they have for each other, and in this case it was absent,” the judge ruled, according to the Telegraph. “By getting married, couples agree to sharing their life and this clearly implies they will have sex with each other.”

Of course, some men also take extreme measures in dissolving relationships.

In 2009, a North Dakota man requested half the value of his wife’s breast job when the two split.

Erik Isaacson appealed his judge’s decision to exclude the value of the procedure from the divorce case. The judge worried that if breast implants were considered as marital assets, the precedent would extend to other, more necessary medical procedures like root canals or even hip replacements, according to the Bismarck Tribune.

No argument from Isaacson there: He also wanted his wife’s Lasik vision surgery counted as an asset.

 

One Egyptian woman, however, might have the most valid of the three divorce requests.

According to Urban Titan, the woman had to bring her husband to court because he refused to bathe for their entire first month of marriage.

The man claimed an allergy to water prevented him from maintaining proper hygiene — and a doctor backed up his excuse.

Though the doctor’s validation of the water allergy made ending the marriage more difficult, the woman did eventually get to split from her husband. One can only imagine that she would not be complaining about lack of bedroom activity.

http://news.yahoo.com/french-woman-sues-husband-lack-sex-221500147.html

The Journey of a Cover Girl

Posted: September 14, 2011 by PaanLuel Wël Media Ltd. in People

Former homeless orphan Nyanyai Deng shares her incredible life story

Nyanyai Deng, as told to Danielle Clair

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My story begins thousands of miles away from the cameras, high fashion, glitz and glamour of modeling.

Born in Wau, a small village in Sudan (now South Sudan) and having grown up in Kenya, I learned I had to fend for myself early on in life. I have never met my father and at the age of 3 when my mother died, I was taken to Kenya where I lived as an orphan. It was difficult, to say the least.

Every day I struggled. I moved from city to city, went with little or no food and sometimes I had to sleep outside under trees. I also often found myself in physically abusive situations.

Through Lutheran Children and Family Services, I was eventually paired with my first of three foster families. Despite the hardships and poverty I faced daily, I didn’t want to leave Africa. I had too many unanswered questions for my father. I needed to know why he didn’t he take care of my siblings and me when our mother died. Why did he allow us to become orphans and live such a horrible life?

My sister reassured me that if I left for a better life in America, one day I could go back to South Sudan to find my father and the answers to my burning questions. At the age of 14, I reluctantly boarded a flight to begin the long journey to the United States and what I was told would be a better life with my sister, uncle and two cousins.

The first leg of our trip was from Kenya to London. This was my first time ever leaving Africa, let alone flying on an airplane. The uncertainty, nervousness and fear of what was awaiting us caused me to get sick and lose my appetite. From London, we flew to New York. There were so many people in LaGuardia Airport and it seemed so big. We ended up getting lost! Our communication barrier made it difficult, but a very nice airport employee helped us figure out where we needed to be and drove us to the correct gate for our final flight.

We arrived in Michigan on Thanksgiving Day, Nov. 27, 2003, and were greeted by our new foster family and freezing temperatures. I had never experienced temperatures that low or seen snow. That night we ate turkey for the first time. The next morning, to our surprise, we woke up to six inches of snow. I told my foster mom there was no way I was going outside!

Sadly, it took years to find the refuge that I was promised here in the United States. In addition to dealing with severe culture shock, my family and I were mistreated in our new home—especially my sister, Nyanut, who was emotionally abused by our foster father. That, in addition to taunting in school, made the transition to the States seemingly unbearable. Without proper preparation, I was thrown into an environment of people that I was not used to.

Prior to coming to the U.S., I had never seen other races and ethnicities. Where I came from, everyone looked like me. The kids in my new middle school teased me because I was different. They called me names like “monkey” and made fun of the way I talked, looked and my tomboy style. I often found myself getting into fist fights and resorting to the violent ways I had developed to protect myself back in Africa.

Between home and school, I cried almost every day. I wasn’t happy here in America.

Unfortunately, removing ourselves from the negativity in our new home meant my sister, uncle, cousins and I would have to be split up into new foster families in different cities in Michigan.

I was finally getting adjusted to my new placement, high school and living life in a foreign country without my family from back home when things took a turn for the worst and I got into a fight with my foster mom’s boyfriend. In addition to chaos at home, false accusations of being suicidal landed me in a juvenile detention center for 35 days.

After escaping hardships, abuse and injustice in Africa, I refused to be a victim here. My frustration and anger with life in America reached an all time high and I wanted to return to Africa immediately. Life there was deplorable, but it was home and familiar territory.

Thankfully, Brenda, a tutor at my high school, offered to take me in upon my release from the detention center. Brenda provided the safe, stable environment that I needed and to this day she is the mother figure and support system that I’ve longed for since I was a little girl. In my new home, I finally started living a normal life.

In 2004, my sister asked me to accompany her to a model audition in Lansing. With absolutely no interest in modeling, I waited for her in the hallway. To my surprise, I was approached by a stranger who told me I should be trying out, too. I politely declined, but the woman was persistent and insisted that I audition. She even offered to pay for the pricey training classes the agency was offering to the models they selected if I ended by being chosen. In an effort to simply satisfy this stranger, I entered the model casting.

I was selected.

I was enrolled in the agency’s classes, received training and one year later I was entered my first runway and photography competition. I traveled to Florida for the Actors, Models & Talent for Christ competition. I was excited about the opportunity, but I remember being extremely nervous about the swimsuit portion of the contest.

In Africa, being in public wearing very little clothing was forbidden. I couldn’t believe they wanted me to walk down the runway in a swimsuit in front of so many people! I was ready to drop out of the competition. But once again, Brenda stepped in with the reassurance and confidence I needed. I ended up taking first place in every category I entered.

I have modeled off and on since then. Signing with HOP Models & Talent Agency last year has opened a lot doors, allowing me to meet many people, travel throughout the U.S. and take advantage of amazing modeling opportunities. Among these amazing opportunities are the recent fashion editorials for a future issue of Essence magazine and the September 2011 issue of B.L.A.C. magazine.

After living in the United States for nearly nine years, I continue to search for balance between my African traditions and values and the American traditions and culture that I’m still growing accustom to. For instance, my family in Africa believes in arranged marriages and dowries, or gift offerings, such as cows for a woman’s hand in marriage. As I date, I’ve had to combine the firm African rules, responsibilities and expectations my culture teaches women to follow, in often male-dominated relationships, with the equally distributed power and responsibility most American couples share.

When it comes to American food, I am not a fan! I don’t eat it very often. Some people might frown at this, but I come from a culture that uses our hands to eat every meal. If I’m not eating with my hands, I don’t feel like I’m eating properly.

When I became a mother in 2005, I was forced to learn how to cook. I enjoy preparing traditional African meals and cooking has become one of my favorite hobbies. I’ve even thought about opening a restaurant in the future.

While I hope to make modeling my career one day, I continue to do various kinds of jobs to support myself and my two beautiful little girls, Akuach and Achol, between modeling gigs. I have worked in a food factory packaging beef and in an auto plant. I braid hair. My two daughters are my greatest blessing and my motivation to succeed in whatever I end up doing.

In Africa, I was given the nickname Bruce Lee because of all the fighting I used to do. Now my family jokingly asks me what happened to that tough girl. I tell them when I became a mother, I knew it was time to give up my old ways and become the woman I want my girls to grow up to be. Because of them, I have changed for the better.

In the near future, I look forward to reconnecting with my family in Africa and finally meeting my father. We’ve developed a relationship over the phone after we were connected by a family member a few years ago.

Although I have dealt with a great deal of pain, I am grateful for my experiences. Coming from nothing has allowed me to appreciate all that I have now and helped me to realize my worth. I have been bruised but not broken, and I pray every day that God continues to direct my path and lead me and my daughters toward a bright and happy future.

http://www.blacdetroit.com/BLAC-Detroit/September-2011/The-Journey-of-a-Cover-Girl/


14 September 2011-(Juba) – The government of Central Equatoria State says it did not disapprove the existence of the capital city in Juba.

On 2nd September, the Council of Ministers chaired by President Salva Kiir Mayardit confirmed the relocation of South Sudan Capital City from Juba to Ramciel in Lakes State.

Central Equatoria Minister of Information and Communication Francis Berson Yoasa told reporters on Wednesday that they had previously called for a peaceful co- existence of the two governments.

[Francis Berson]: "The government of Central Equatoria State wishes to mention here that a five by five square Kilometre land was officially allocated on the western end of Juba City on the road to Yei for the country’s Capital City, another five by five Kilometre land was officially allocated on the Eastern bank of the River Nile on the Torit road. In both cases there was no response from the national government. After consultation the government of Central Equatoria wishes to make crystal clear that its position was the co-existence of the two governments in Juba."

Berson insisted that they respect the decision reached upon to relocate the capital city to Ramciel.

The Minister for National Security in the Office of the President, General Oyay Deng Ajak, who heads the committee for the capital city relocation, told SRS that the Bari community in Juba said they wanted the city to be relocated to avoid more expansion into the Bari territory.

Arab Darfuri al-Haj Adam Youssef named Sudan vice-president

Posted: September 14, 2011 by PaanLuel Wël Media Ltd. in Junub Sudan

Sudan’s president has named a politician from Darfur, Adam Youssef, as his vice-president, the state-run Suna news agency says.

Sudan's President Omar al-Bashir pictured in August 2011President Omar al-Bashir’s government says the extent of the conflict in Darfur has been exaggerated

One of Sudan’s two vice-presidency roles became vacant in July when Salva Kiir gave up the position to lead newly independent South Sudan.

Mr Youssef comes from one of Darfur’s Arab ethnic groups and recently joined President Omar al-Bashir’s party.

Mr Bashir denies accusations of war crimes in the western Darfur region.

The UN says some 300,000 people have died during Darfur’s eight-year conflict between black African rebel groups and Arab militias in Darfur.

The government says this figure has been exaggerated and the true figure of deaths from the conflict is 12,000.

‘No different’

Some rebel groups in Darfur have rejected the appointment of Mr Youssef as symbolic.

"He is part of the Arabisation of Darfur. He won’t make a difference," el-Tahir el-Faki, a senior official in the Justice and Equality Movement (Jem) told Reuters news agency.

Jem and another rebel group the Sudan Liberation Army have rejected a recent peace deal signed between Khartoum and the Liberation and Justice Movement (LJM) – an umbrella group of rebel factions.

Jem signed a ceasefire with the Sudanese government in February 2010 but abandoned peace talks soon after, accusing Khartoum’s forces of launching new raids in Darfur.

Mr Youssef was an Islamist and leading figure in the opposition Popular Congress Party until November 2010, Sudan’s Tribune newspaper reports.

The International Criminal Court has issued an arrest warrant for Mr Bashir and other officials, accusing them of genocide and crimes against humanity in Darfur.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-africa-14912701

South Sudan: No. 196

Posted: September 14, 2011 by PaanLuel Wël Media Ltd. in Junub Sudan

"Oh God, we praise and glorify you; for your grace on South Sudan; the land of great abundance; uphold us united in peace and harmony."

This is the first stanza of the national anthem of the Republic of South Sudan, a nation that did not exist prior to July 9 of this year.

After decades of civil war and internal conflict, South Sudan finally gained its independence from the northern part of the country. The secession took place after a historic vote conducted in January.

The Republic of South Sudan is now the world’s 196th nation. It is comprised of approximately eight million citizens led by newly elected president Salva Kiir Mayardit. On July 14, the new country was inducted into the United Nations, becoming the organization’s 193rd nation member.

While the United Nations accepted the Republic of South Sudan with open arms, tensions linger between the new nation and it’s Northern counterpart.

"With the declared independence of South Sudan, approximately one fourth of Sudan’s land area has been removed," says Donna Mountz, Eastern University’s Geography professor. "There are valuable resources in the south. As in the north there are vast reserves of oil and the south has a fertile soil and plenteous supplies of water that make this region very different from the north"

A recent UN report found that 1,500 people have been killed and 73,000 displaced in South Sudan’s conflicts during recent months. Much of this conflict has been attributed to rebel groups in the South, including groups connected with the Sudan People’s Liberation Movement.

Despite the present conflict, world leaders are hopeful about the future of South Sudan.

"South Sudan has remarkable potential," said Ban Ki-moon, Secretary General of the United Nations. "With substantial oil reserves, huge amounts of arable land and the Nile flowing through its center, South Sudan could grow into a prosperous, self-sustaining nation."

The 8 million citizens of South Sudan are also maintaining a thankful attitude about their new nation. "There are those who would attribute this remarkable, uncontested independence to the God of the people of South Sudan," Mountz said. "These people are thanking Christians the world over for their prayers to Almighty God for this new nation to be allowed to exist."

http://www.waltonian.com/news/sudan-no-196-1.2588680#.TnDZt2Ow6mE

A new friend for Israel in… South Sudan

Posted: September 14, 2011 by PaanLuel Wël Media Ltd. in Junub Sudan

At a time of diplomatic turbulence, Israel’s diplomatic ties with the world’s newest nation, South Sudan, can benefit its economy and security. While struggling South Sudan will appreciate Israel’s aid, it’s actually Israel that stands to gain.

By Daniel R. DePetris / September 14, 2011

Syracuse, N.Y.

The world’s newest member in the community of nations got plenty of press coverage when it formally declared independence in July. But one aspect of South Sudan’s emergence went largely unnoticed: the establishment of official diplomatic relations with Israel. Far from a routine gesture, the mutual declaration of recognition between the two states could prove to be a significant boost to Israel’s strategic position, not to mention the positives that may come as South Sudan attempts to get its new state on a strong footing.

The leaders of South Sudan, a country with a feeble national infrastructure and a near-nonexistent formal economy after two decades of conflict with the north, will much appreciate the economic aid and leverage that comes with a new diplomatic relationship. But it is actually Israel that has the most to gain.

Israel’s diplomatic outreach extends a measure of goodwill to the people of South Sudan – who need all the help they can get as their country begins the long process of setting up embassies, forming an independent foreign policy, and building up their agricultural potential. But the new partnership with the South Sudanese Government also provides Israel with an opportunity to create a foothold in a region that is known to export some its instability into the Middle East.

At the same time that the Israeli people continue to raise questions over the rising costs of housing, food, and fuel, the diplomatic relationship with South Sudan has the potential to alleviate some of those problems – that is, if the Israeli government is serious about working with a country projected by some to be Africa’s biggest food producer. And while South Sudan certainly has years to go before its economy breaks free from the shackles of oil dependency, the technical expertise that Israel brings into the new relationship at least has a potential to make that transition a little easier.

Economics are not the only benefit for Israel. This new relationship could prove a huge boost to Israel’s global standing – and its strategy of Iranian deterrence as well. Over the past several years, Iran – Israel’s archenemy in the region – has been accelerating its own diplomatic push on the African continent in an attempt to compensate for its loss of markets in the west.

A concerted campaign by Israel to sponsor development projects in South Sudan, involve itself in promoting the country’s untapped natural resources, and build people-to-people contacts that are genuine and long-lasting would take a significant potential market and relationship from Iran as it tries to survive economic sanctions on its nuclear program.

In addition to using its hard power to slow down Tehran’s pursuit of an indigenous nuclear program, the Israelis will find it worthwhile to exploit soft power as well. Putting a good face on the African continent is one aspect of that soft power approach.

Partnering up with South Sudan also enables Israel – and by extension, the United States – to increase pressure on neighboring Sudanese President Omar al-Bashir, whose government has capitalized on terrorism in the past. While Sudan has drastically reduced its support for terrorist attacks in the region after the September 11 attacks, Mr. Bashir’s country continues to serve as a place of convenience for those who would be more than happy to strike western targets. (Osama bin Laden resided in Sudan before traveling to Afghanistan in 2001.)

Elements of Hamas and the Palestinian Islamic Jihad, two groups that have launched attacks against Israelis this year, are also known to operate in Sudan, with or without the permission of Sudanese authorities.

Indeed, whether the Sudanese are complicit in the arrangement is not necessarily the most frightening aspect of this situation for the Israelis. The major concern is that armed groups are operating on Sudanese territory with relative impunity, ensuring that their fighters are well rested and their organization is at least healthy enough to survive another day.

What has been most worrisome to Israelis over the past few years are intelligence reports alleging that armed Palestinian groups in the Gaza Strip have used Sudan as a transit point for smuggling weapons into the coastal territory. Israeli and US intelligence has indicated that Sudan serves as a layover for Iranian weapons destined for fighters in Gaza, an arrangement that Israel has tried to counter by bombing suspected weapons convoy sites on Sudanese territory.

Sudan losing a third of its territory to the South Sudanese will undeniably throw a wrench into the inner workings of these fundraising and arms procurement efforts. This disruption will continue, of course, only if South Sudan quickly undertakes the hard work of converting a guerrilla force into a coherent and law-abiding army – one that follows international human rights law, the laws of war, and is held accountable by the senior military and civilian leadership when the rules are violated.

None of this will come shortly or out of thin air. But having established diplomatic ties with dozens of countries around the world – including with an Israeli state that prides itself on its military record – South Sudan is not alone in the journey.

South Sudan may have been admitted to the United Nations as a full member state, but the work of building a stable nation has only just begun. Multiple challenges remain for the young country, ranging from meeting food security needs to ensuring that their soldiers can refrain from contributing to yet another conflict with the Sudanese Government on the contentious border. Israel can help with this transition, picking up a new ally at a time when it faces a significant bout of diplomatic turbulence.

Daniel R. DePetris studies security issues and Middle Eastern affairs at the Maxwell School of Syracuse University, where he is an associate editor of the Journal on Terrorism and Security Analysis. He has contributed to the Diplomat, Small Wars Journal, and Foreign Policy in Focus.

http://www.csmonitor.com/Commentary/Opinion/2011/0914/A-new-friend-for-Israel-in-South-Sudan/%28page%29/2