10 things you must stop doing for you to become a successful leader
By Michael Chol Tor, Juba South Sudan
December 7, 2016 (SSB) — Success means something different to every person: like attractiveness, it exists in the eye of the beholder. It is your responsibility to determine what success means for you, and how you go about breeding or propagating success in your life.
Despite this, there are definitely hindrances or handicap to success. These drawbacks or hurdles are ubiquitous, ever-present or omnipresent in their ability to deter or discourage your success. But don’t fret because if you seek success, and you fear your actions are blocking your desire for success, you have the power and control to overcome the following obstacles.
1. Making Excuses
Stop blaming other people for why you don’t get what you want. Stop refusing to accept responsibility for your mistakes. You make your own choices and you make your own mistakes. In general, stop justifying your poor choices and stop attributing your lack of success to things outside of your control. Successful people don’t do this.
You are going to err or make a mistake. You are going to fail. When this inevitably occurs look within, in a non-judgmental manner, and figure out what you can do better next time. Don’t waste time looking externally by creating excuses for why you didn’t achieve success.
2. Focusing on the Negatives
Yes, there are negative circumstances in life that you have no control over. There are also plenty, copiousness, abundance of positive experiences in your life. I am willing to bet or gamble you have more positives in your life than negatives.
You are capable of living with a positive perspective. If you want to cultivate success in your life, than you need to concentrate on all the good. You shouldn’t disregard the negative, but you don’t have to give it so much of your attention. Otherwise you are never going to be satisfied because you are so focused on the unfavorable conditions of your life. Even if you reach a level of ostensible or professed success, your continued focus on the negatives will prevent you from relishing or enjoy greatly your accomplishments.
3. Fearing Failure
As I previously stated, INSECURE LEADERS ARE GOING TO FAIL! There is no reason to fear it. Rather, you should embrace it. Learn from it, and ultimately improve from it. When you are successful you know you are always trying your best. When you fail it is not a reflection of you as a person; you are not a flawed individual. View failure as an opportunity to grow, not as something to be feared.
4. Looking for the Easy Way
I want to preface or forward by stating that attaining or earning success isn’t supposed to be an improbable venture where you have to overcome a certain amount of adversity and hardship. I am opining or declaring that successful people don’t look for the easy way through life. Merely strolling, roving through life on cruise control is not the blueprint for success. You need to challenge yourself at times. Push yourself and stretch or make bigger your limits. Aim to reach your maximum potential, and then go beyond that. That is a success in itself.
5. Beating Yourself Up
You wouldn’t ever beat yourself up physically so why would you do it emotionally and mentally? Learning how to skillfully deal with your thoughts and emotions when you are facing adverse situations is crucial to being successful.
Get upset over things. Express your emotions in an appropriate manner. Be unhappy from time to time. It is going to happen. But don’t ruminate over unpleasant memories and beat yourself up over things that already occurred. Too much time and energy spent on this diverts your attention away from more important endeavors like progressing toward your goals.
6. Being Ungrateful
The best way to establish more contentment or satisfaction in your life is to be more grateful. If you want to push away happiness, joy, paradise and bliss than be ungrateful. Gratitude breeds happiness but it also breeds success. If you are grateful for your life and everything that comprises it you are going to have a less complicated time attaining wealth and accomplishing your goals.
I don’t just mean financial wealth because wealth includes all kinds of valuables. I am not proposing that all financially wealthy people are grateful, and therefore, successful, or that all financially poor people are ungrateful, and therefore unsuccessful. Being ungrateful is not congruent or matching with getting ahead in life. If you crave success than observe everything you are grateful for. Your gratitude will serve as a compass for your life. It will guide your decision-making, and lead you to success.
7. Concentrating Solely or Exclusively on Your Needs
Hopefully this goes without saying but focusing only on yourself is not going to help you attain success. You could be the wealthiest person on the planet, and it is apparent that you are extremely successful. If you accrued your wealth by taking advantage of people, or by being selfish and egotistical, narcissistic you are not successful in my concept. You probably wouldn’t be very happy either. The best way to succeed in life is by helping someone else!
8. Getting Distracted or Unfocused
You were going to start your concept but…You were going to launch your dream commerce idea but…You were going to travel through World but…
I get it. Things come up. Life takes you on a different course. It happens sometimes. But don’t allow yourself to become distracted from realizing your dreams. When distractions obstruct you, from your passions or affections than you are moving further and further away from claiming your ultimate successes.
This starts with your daily life. It is fun and often necessary to log onto concept-book and check your heart emails, but don’t allow the modern technological age to prevent you from the work that needs to be finished today. Success is based on working toward your goals while not letting disruptions hinder that.
9. Living Aimlessly or Pointlessly
It is your responsibility to ascertain your life goals and objectives. Being successful means you are fulfilling your life’s purpose every day.
Whether your purpose is super ambitious or determined such as solving family hunger or more feasible, possible like being happy, doesn’t matter. The point is that you are aiming to be the best you can be. Steadily wandering through life without any ambitions or without contributing anything to society is not what successful people do.
10. Giving Up or Feeling Frustrated
When you face an improbable obstacle in life how do you respond? Do you give up, or do you keep pressing on? Successful people don’t give up. They commit themselves to reaching their final destination. They may not ever get there, but they don’t allow impediments to prevent them from trying.
This means continuing on despite failures and disappointments. Success encompasses a lot of different arenas. What works for financial success may not translate into relationship success. Being successful as a political athlete doesn’t necessarily make you successful as a political school student as well. There are varying degrees of success depending on what situation you are in.
Regardless, the fundamental backbone of success is trying your best. If you put forth your best effort, without harming others in the process, than you are successful people. This can apply to work, family, friends, relationships, hobbies, etc. As the late great John Wooden said, “Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.” I think that sums it up beautifully.
Almost no elected official or community representative is going to be perfect, even new elect people or recently last 10 year delegates. For reason be, our community leaders, former elected officials, clergymen Must do away of creating hatred drama intentionally to divide people whether in States level or Counties level.
The writer can be reached through: Email: Choltor45@gmail.com
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