South Sudanese: Let’s Rather Marry “The Educated Ones"
By Chol Luka Awan, Juba, South Sudan
January 5, 2017 (SSB) — Our people have had a very wrong perception about the educated girls or those who have gone to school. It has been and it is still a burden to most girls and really an abuse for them. After staying in schools for years till their late twenties or possibly thirties, they are misjudged by the public most especially the illiterate ones who are considered in today’s modern and traditional marriages.
To call a spade a spade but not a big spoon, they are said to be prostitutes, spoilt and old. They have been also falsely believed that when they are hurt after marriage, they immediately run for a divorce with an excuse that they are fit to survive anywhere since they possess their academic documents.
Though the public’s perception about educated girls may have an atom of the truth at some circumstances, I absolutely disagree in the following ways. As we understand very well that the world is growing daily into a better modern one, there is a high demand and a struggle to marry educated girls so that it becomes much easier to catch up with the speedy world of modernity.
A modern woman who has gone to school will understand his husband in family matters. That is in times of family budget. She will not compare his husband with other men. She will understand the husband’s occupation and profession and therefore determine the amount earned resulting within the family.
On the other hand of raising children, they will take education as something valuable hence making it a priority despite the gender difference among the children. An educated woman looks at things from all directions. From the top to the bottom. She will be able to understand both cultural and modern issues hence portraying the sense of equality among the relatives on both sides.
As far as this modern life is concerned, there is a need for collective responsibility whereby an educated woman will offer herself to do anything possible shamelessly just for the need of her family development no matter what it takes. For she has understood how the world is shaped. It is round.
She will be able to endure the great patience for her family set goals till they are achieved in the long run. I seriously assure you dear readers that educated girls are really interesting. They don’t play a hide and seek game. They are always straight forward for clarity.
Whenever they mention a word yes, take note of it. It is a real yes and likewise to the word no. If they have devoted their full time and energy necessary to love you, just have everlasting happiness till Jesus Christ comes back.
You will be a king in your home and raise your princes and princesses happily in a very conducive environment of joy without any interruption. It is a high time that we ended polygamous marriages.
I know you like those who have not gone to school much because they have shallow minds that can be easily coaxed so as to make classroom of ladies in your home and raise that perfect traditional of respect and honor.
To contradict a bit with my own argumentation, we cannot avoid those sisters who have not gone to school much. In some cases, it is not their fault that they did not study.
They are there very beautiful and hardworking (lost boys’ wives). Others can accept changes though in most times, they love negatives changes. Let it just depend on the depth of your affection but I prefer the educated ones.
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