Womanizer and Cheaters: Get Married and Settle Down

Posted: July 25, 2017 by PaanLuel Wël in Commentary, Contributing Writers, Junub Sudan, Opinion Articles, Opinion Writers, Peter Okello

Ladies always ask obvious questions whether Mr. Love exists. Some still ask themselves that, do men really love their women or it is only the game that they intend to play. What is in the heart of cheaters or womanizers? Do they date to marry their ladies they dated or to merely play with them? Let me spill the nut for you today. How then can the womanizers and cheaters end the game of playing with ladies? I will tell you what to be done for them to end their nasty games.

By Peter Okello, Juba, South Sudan

Peter Okello – Human Rights Activist and Political Journalist

Peter Okello – Human Rights Activist and Political Journalist

July 25, 2017 (SSB) — For obvious reasons and for all the good reasons on earth, you can never predict or tell what is in the mind of this handsome looking guy you are dating or dated yesterday. This guy is cute. Oh my God! He is sent from heaven just for you only. He is superbly awesome and made out of honey. He is sweet and creamy. Perhaps his sweetness is like that chocolate ice-creams you take every day.

Now all you want to do is to fall in love with him, perhaps kiss him there and after. You are afraid to lose him to another lady, do you? You see, there are these ladies are well trained in snatching husbands and boyfriends of other ladies. We nickname them as “husband snatchers”.  Be careful with them. These ladies cannot look for their own men. All they do is to wait and when they come into your life as friends, they immediately begin to mess things up with your boyfriend. Watch out ooh!

Sometimes it is very easy to identify these guys who pretend to be a loving and caring fiancé. This guy tells you sweet words and often promise to do this and do that, watch out for such guys in the street. These kinds of guys, my dear – they are clever cheats.

African Tradition versus Modern

In African traditions and customs, cheating and playing with other people girls is not allowed and is an offense. If you try to cheat and you are caught doing that shameless act, trust me, if you are hanged, beaten to death or your important organs slit out or possibly killed, my friend you consider yourself lucky.

There are no jobs in playing somebody’s daughter. They fed her, clothe her, educate her, medicate her and above all, raised her to age and level where she is and if you, from nowhere come and try to play with this lovely cared for daughter, trust me, unless you are ready to attend an important meeting in heave.

You see, this issue of boyfriends and girlfriends does not exist in African culture especially in South Sudan. Our cultures and norms are clear. Go through the door. If you want my daughter, come through the door, not through the window or some short-cuts.

My girl is a decent girl and she deserves to be respected and treated well. If you start disobeying me and play around with my daughter, be careful – when you are caught, that is the end of your living days on earth.

African traditions need well-arranged relationships and superbly matured and known by the family of the lady. If you dump the girl without the attentions of the parent, then be ready to receive some payback or call a lesson. In South Sudan, our ladies are treated with the upper hand and with good care and respect. Any game of cheating should not be injected into South Sudan.

In the modern world, today, where almost the entire nation uses the developed telecommunication devices relationships, has migrated to an online platform. Your girlfriend has a telephone, easy deal to call her and arrange where to meet.

Very easy to date and cheat. You can call another lady on the different line or you can protect your phone by using password whereby your lady cannot know. Your game is ready to work. You can illegally marry another wife online. A woman who is in America and you are in Africa. You talk through the phone almost every seconds and every day.

The modern culture of today is gaining momentum and women goes up to the digital world where they secretly talk to their boyfriends in hidden chambers without the knowledge of their parents. These have led to unnecessary pregnancies within the societies. The parent cannot control their girls and in that case, the rates of girls’ early pregnancies and schools dropped out is very high.

Get married and settle down

The worst part of cheating on your loyal wife or girlfriend is that, you might end up getting unnecessary diseases. You legally invited those diseases by going out to look for another lady to play with, leaving behind your lovely woman who is doing nothing in return but to wait for you until you come back to her in the evening.

This lady is very loyal. In fact, the lady is loyal beyond imagination and the only thing you do is to pay her loyalty with cheating habits and disrespecting her womanhood. What is wrong with you, is probably the question you ought to ask? Is the lady you once loved not satisfying you. What is in the other lady you went to, that is not in the lady you secretly left behind?

The funniest part is that women can do nothing when they find their men cheating on them. All they do is to softly and silently cry and cry with hatred in return. After she finished crying, the only left message is that she is hurt, hurt beyond physical imagination.

Cheating and being a handsome womanizer is never good. You see, it is like stealing somebody’s properties. What happens if you are found? Think of it. Either you kill alive or burn to death. It is then good to avoid cheating by doing the right things at the right time.

You have to avoid being a womanizer by dating a lady, know her best and understand her well. If she is good enough to be your lady, marry her there and she will become your legal wife. A wife who respect only you and a wife who only sees you and not another man. A wife who respect you and your family members equally.

If you marry, you will bury your evil deeds of messing around with any lady that comes your way. Not all ladies are good. Some of them are totally bad and a disgrace to their families. They don’t respect or even listen to their husbands. Such ladies will not get good husbands or will not have a great marriage.

To say the least, cheating is never a good idea and if your friend has lured you into it, please I ask you to refrains from such acts and be a good guy from today onward. Love only one lady, marry only one lady and be only with one lady until the death does you guys a part. I hope my message is loud and clear enough to be utilized.

Cheating has no room in South Sudan. To those who are womanizers, your days are numbered and I ask you to start to abandon those cats right now. Just right now. Lob only one and marry only one. God bless you all.

Peter Okello has a Bachelor Degree in International Relation and Human at University of Pretoria, South Africa, Former chairman of South Sudanese Journalists Union in Kenya (SSJUK), former Sub- editor for the refugee magazine – FilmAid International, regional reporter for the DW, former production manager of Jonglei Public Radio – Jonglei State, Senior reporter at The Dawn Newspaper and Human Right Activist. You can reach him via his email: Okello Peter okellopeter@gmx.com

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