Independent and Educated, but Arrogant Ladies, Hardly Have Stable Families in South Sudan
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By Grace Akon Andrew Biar, Nairobi, Kenya
Monday, September 28, 2020 (PW) — At some point, we wonder why some independent South Sudanese women don’t have husbands or why they can’t maintain their homes. In my opinion, they majority of such women have mistaken their education or riches with women supremity and men’s dependency.
Some of them don’t even listen to their husbands. Others will always want to lead the family in everything to the point of turning their husbands into navie kind of pets. They don’t know that real education is a positive change from within but never a Muscle growth of some kind.
To most of these women, respect for husbands or in laws become an insignificant cultural myth of some kind. These women would prefer to live in a house only with their husbands and children but no relatives. This is a selfish behavior that needs immediate eradication. In our culture. Communal love is paramount.
Nowadays, if a man raise his voice to his wife since most men are naturally egotistical, that would be the beginning of world War iii. This kind of behavior can really traumatize a man to his early grave or force him to look for a second wife.
Some men would be struggling to keep up with the negative and arrogant behaviors of their independent and educated wives but these bullies of women will majestically continue to portray their irrelevant behavior even though they know that what they do please none.
This is because they claim themselves the eternal breadwinner that can hook up with any man should those bulls of muds(their typical language) disappoint or disobey them.
Fellow women, life is more than just being educated and independent. It is natural for a woman to have a man that will father her children. I am not trying to say that it is compulsory to get married. The choice is yours as a woman.
However, this habit of having fatherless children and making noise on Facebook trying to defend your handmade single_hood should stop. It is senseless dear women. Be independent yes but maintain your home.
I know there are those independent women, who are doing well in their families. We applaud them and we are grateful for their diligence but to those few women who want the community to hate our education and independence, please try to change.
ONLY BRAVE GIRLS GET MARRIED TO POTENTIAL YOUNG MEN WHO ARE ALSO STUDENTS
Considering the current situation of South Sudan, dating a potential young man who is also a dreamer becomes one of the hardest things which in most cases doesn’t happen.
Theses days, many young ladies to go for old or middle _age men who might have been saving money for quite some time, even though such ladies might have been dating potential young men, they won’t care much about such men who might have promised to get marriage to them one day.
Such ladies don’t care about the age or marital status of those old dudes. The most important thing to ladies is getting married to men with fat pockets. They will never care about the problems they may face when they come across the first wives of such men.
To the few brave girls who date students, you are lioness. Even if you are seen like confused or never certain of what you want in life. Put on the belt of honesty and bravery. Stall and curve your own paths. No man can defeat or reject a focus and independent lady. Getting married to a man of your own dreams whom you can work and hustle together with, is a blessing.
Chasing after another man’s wealth that you might have not worked for is very shameful and degrading. It is like selling your dignity for marital gain. How do you enjoy another person toil? Struggling to achieve something together I’d good, a man you equally work with, will always respect and support your plans. He will always remind you of where you both came from.
In my opinion, marrying a rich man is not a problem. The issue arises when the question is put across as follows. What have you added to this rich man’s life that can qualify you to deserve him? Marriage is all about making sacrifices, commitment and supporting one another.
Marriage is never a free ticket to riches. If u have gotten a potential and supportive boyfriend. Please hold on to him and make both of your dreams come true and alive.
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Grateful to see that our culture is burry with old woman. For Grace Akon have see far thou she is young could our young educated ladies think positive. Then we young generation will not cry for good, future wife in our nation. For most men were confuse as majority face abuse from their villages women who they marriage with hope to led this nation but due to right to each one. Some end up trying to beat their husband infront of relatives which let young men fear to marriage educate girl.
However, Grace has rescue many throught this article.
Thanks and keep rising the voice for this nation don’t need men but all of us.