By Nunu Ajak, Juba City, South Sudan.
Jim Rohn once said that “You must take personal responsibility for your life. You can’t change the circumstances, the seasons or the wind, but you can change yourself.”
One of the most persuasive myths in our societies and cultures is that we are entitled to great life—that someone somehow somewhere is responsible for filling our lives with continual happiness, exciting career options and gratifying personal relationships simply because we exist. But the real truth is that there is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you live or dream to achieve.
That person is “You!”
In fact, most of us have been conditioned to passionately believe and blame something outside of ourselves for the part of our lives we don’t like. However, we do forget that we have unconditioned facts that we can’t distort or just wish away. We blame our parents, our bosses, our friends, the media, our spouses, the economy, our lack of financial resources—anyone or anything we can pin the blame on. We never want to look at where the problem is: ourselves.
We as the South Sudanese youth have a culture that entails our values and morals. Though unwritten, it nevertheless outlines each and every person’s personal responsibility in life.
Just wondering, how can we the feminine gender, for instance, finds happiness in other people? Ever since our people fled our homeland during the civil war, our cultural values and norms have been worryingly deteriorating. Take for example; long ago, during the time of our mothers and fathers, it was very rare to find any girl engaging in prostitution. Nowadays however, prostitution is the new inn in town. It is becoming so common and normal as attending our local traditional dances. But how can we indulge in prostitution just in the name of having fun and playing around with men? Does that make sense at all? Please people; let’s call a spade by its true name, not a big spoon. True, if you go to Rome, do as Romans do but that does not give you an automatic gate-pass to pick all the negative things about Rome.
For sure, what would you call that if our young girls—the seeds of our nation—are taking these primitive habits to the new Republic of South Sudan? What would you call it if these very same young, promising girls pick every old man as a “sugar daddy” in the name of digging money out of him? What would it be if spending a night in the streets waiting for every Tom, Dick and Harry to pick you up for the best service from him in the name of getting carnal satisfaction?
Let’s stop spoiling our hard-earned, irreplaceable reputations in the name of “we don’t care.” We must care because behind every’s “I don’t care” frenzy lurks a big deal of emotions threatening to burst and proclaim the real, long-suppressed truth within each and every one of us.
Let’s try our best to avoid regrets in life because the “I wish I knew” moments only confirm and illustrate how poor we do plan our stuffs. Let’s not be those who wait for people’s comments and expectations in our lives. Look for something worthy to live for. It’s really bad to be known for immoral behaviors because it portrays a bad picture for yourselves, and particularly for those special ones in your life who do care for you and cherish your future. You would feel like a failure and your loved ones would feel let down!
Let’s stop doing things that will personally lag us behind in particular, and those that would preclude the healthy socio-economic growth and development of our nation. Each and every one of us has an indispensable role to play in nation building. This nation can’t positively progress and prosper unless we take up 100% responsibilities for ourselves as patriotic citizens of our country. Let’s make and declare excellence part of our lives. Surely, not only should we be aiming at the sky but also for greater, bigger heights bordering the limits of possibilities.
It is high time you stop looking outside yourself for the answers as to why you haven’t created the life and results you craved for, for it is only you who create the quality of life you lead and the results you produce.
Only you, no one else!
To achieve major successes in life, to achieve those things that are most important to you, you must assume 100% responsibility for your life. Nothing else will do! Nothing else will work! You and only you matter!!
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